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JLH

Hi...I'm a 18 year old girl from NB. I've kind of got myself into a bit of trouble and I'm not sure what to do. I know you are all really helpful and friendly so i was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I've recently fallen pretty hard for a JW. We actually love each other. The thing is...we had to break things off because im not one. I'd be willing to change my ways bit I'm scared of doing it for the wrong reasons. Help!!

KW13

I dunno how to say this without sounding like i don't care.

Firstly, your in the situation and you'll know what your heart wants and where you need to be.

Personally, i'd say find someone else. I know its tough to just "uproot" but this person will always put religion before you and for you to become a witness or even just pretend to be interested won't work. Could you spend everyday pretending your happy? The society is a cult, he won't see it but many of us can promise its true. He should love you as you are.

Hopefully someone a bit wiser and cleverer than me will speak to you, wish you all the best though!

OpenFireGlass

He should love you as you are.

'nough said...

parakeet

Run, JLH, run like the wind!

So not kidding.

Sad emo

Welcome to the board JLH

Have a good look around here and you'll quickly realise why you get the same reply - don't do it!!

What KW said ...

AudeSapere

Hi JLH -

Welcome to JWD!

Here's a link to a bunch of threads from people in a situation similar to yours (from LadyLee's 'Best Of' series):

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/32/77159/1.ashx

I concur with the others. Move on. There is just so much baggage there and you will either have to change your entire life and give up who you really are (and your probably just starting to figure that out for yourself) or you will have a very long road to haul if he decides to leave the JWs (doesn't sound like he's ready for that).

Move on. It's really the best for both of you.

-Aude Sapere (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to have wisdom/understanding.)

Scully

There are lots of links to threads about situations similar to yours in the The Best of... I'm married to or dating a JW section.

I'm sure you feel very alone and confused, and I hope that when you read some of these experiences, you'll see that you aren't alone and that there are other people who understand what you're going through.

Please do not let your feelings for this guy cloud your judgement about what you would be getting into if you are thinking of converting to the JWs in order to keep the relationship going. That is definitely not a good reason to adopt a different belief system.

Stay and talk with us some more. Learn all you possibly can about Jehovah's Witnesses. Before you commit to anything, you need to find out what it really means to become one of Jehovah's Witnesses... that includes things that your love interest might not have disclosed to you, thinking it would scare you away from "The Truth" (that's what they call the JW belief system once you're "in"). You deserve to become fully informed before you decide to commit to any belief system... the same way you deserve to be fully informed about the benefits and risks of a scary medical procedure. This is your life that we're talking about - and you deserve to have as much information at your disposal as possible to make the decision that is truly in your own best interests.

I just hope it's not my nephew that you've hooked up with... he's about your age and lives in your area.... it's not that he's a bad person... but I'd hate to see this religion mess with your mind like it has with so many other young people.

beautifulisfree

We actually love each other. The thing is...we had to break things off because im not one.

I am going to have to agree with everyone here. I think you love him more...a person should accept a person for who they are. But, witnesses do not do this. Even if you were to continue your relationship you would always be judged and labeled as a 'worldly' person. Even though I am sure you are a kind person. You are still young and there are bigger fish in the sea.

geevee

HI, welcome to the board. I have a couple of pages for you to look at to get an overall, try the first suggestion. As has been mentioned check out heaps of info on this place first. Everything they didn't want you to know and why!!
Someone said RUN!! Maybe, but it maybe a mistake to think that you could convert him to your way of thinking. It is sad that religion can interfere with true love, but it will in your case.
Best of luck to you.

http://www.jwfacts.com/index_files/5min.htm
http://www.jwfacts.com/index_files/questions.htm
http://www.jwfacts.com/index.htm

OpenFireGlass

I am sure you are a kind person. You are still young and there are bigger fish in the sea.

Yeah, Think about this... Do you want to have children? He would more than likely want to raise the children JW. Take it from me, growing up a JW sucked... I didn't miss holidays per say, but it sucked not having any social structure(friends) at school. Plus I was dicouraged from getting an education to serve their god.... Needless to say I left my house by 17...

Another thing... Is he in college? If not, he's probablly not going... you may have to raise your family on "window washer's" salary...

BTW Welcome, Mike

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