I was most afraid of disapointing God and not being faithful enough. And secondly on abusing his "sheep" in some way. I tried to be positive with my bible studentss and could not make the org. out to be more than it was. That is probably why no one I studied with became witnesses, although I have retained them as friends even today. I could not scare them into the org. I felt this was spiritual abuse - as my dad did this to me as a child with hellfire.
I don't know why but I never believed you had to be a JW to make it through the big A. I never taught my kids that either. Although my hubby did. The kids never bought it either.