I got invited to a party, should i go? (page 2)

LDH

Jurs--

Don't know about where you're from, but all of us 'girlfriends' take turns having like one party a month.

More than anything it's an excuse to get together. And for us, it really is a party. We spend WAYYY MORE on drinks and food than we could ever get back in 'hostess gifts,' LOL.

My girlfriend had a 'Pampered Chef' party on Friday night (couldn't go; was at the Chinatown Jazz Festival). Complete with Jello Shots, full bar, munchies. The poor Pampered Chef girl couldn't get in a word edgewise. The guys were out back bbq'ing and drinking beer. And there were about 50 people there.

But there is a difference. We kind of just use it as an excuse to get together. It all evens out, if you have the kind of friends I have.

I would say, if this is the first party PERIOD she's invited you to, I wouldn't go. But if you have a friendship with her and you've associated in other ways, go. You never know who you could meet.

Lisa

jurs

Hi everyone,

I haven't decided yet if I'll go. I really liked this lady. She has been studying with witnesses for 5 years , not all of it was done here in colorado. She's pretty brainwashed yet she still has alot of the world in her ( if ya know what I mean). I use to make a special effort to always encourage her.
I have so much make up and lotions ect that I don't need anymore and I think Mary Kay is overpriced. I Know if witnesses are there that they will shun me. In a way thats why I want to go . I want Angie the bible study to see that and if there are any "worldly "people there , I want them to see it. It may be awkward and I might get stuck buying something all for nothing. No one may notice and I've just wasted my time. Its not till Saturday so I have time to think about it.

Jurs

Billygoat

Jurs,

I think you've gotten some pretty great advice here. Mine pretty much mirrors Shaneliza. Go and hold your head high. Kill 'em with kindness - you'll be proud of yourself for treating them kindly when they don't. Good luck whatever you do!

Andi

bboyneko

The first thing you should know about Mary Kay is that it's a cult. They don't want to come right out and admit this, but Mary Kay is just as much a cult as Hale-Bopp, the Peoples Temple, the Church of Scientology, the Shriners, the McLaughlin Group, the Fingerhut Corporation, Pottery Barn, or Blue Cross/Blue Shield.

All the necessary cult elements are present: a messianic leader, a stable of devoted disciples, an evangelistic message, a wacky mode of transportation. Hale-Bopp had a spaceship. Mary Kay has a Pink Cadillac.

Run far far away from Amway, Quixtar, Raddison Vacation 'Deals', and especially Mary Kay.

nytelecom1

you say she has been studying for 5 years and you want her
to see how dubs act around someone who is df'd??

she hasn't been exposed to this "policy" already??

jurs

Nytelecom1,

Why do I get the feeling you enjoy harassing me ? In the other thread you question my motives..... To address this concern of yours I'll explain. I was baptized 7 years and studied for 3 a total of 10 years in the org. During that time I never really had to shun anyone or was put in a position to shun. At the hall there was shunning but it wasn't up close and personal. I wasn't raised in the truth so there for I never was exposed to shunning like many who have a gazillion JW relatives and there entire life and their friendships have always revolved around the hall. If your spouse (mine for example as well as Angies ) are not JW's you are not part of the clicks, your an outsider to some degree so therefore shunning really is not that big of an issue, Your not close eneough to anyone to have it really affect you. I'm the first person that is in Angie's face to make her deal with shunning. This is her first awkward encounter on wether she should speak to me or not. I posted in past threads but not this one that a family actually went to her house to tell her not to let her kids play with mine ect. ect. So hopefully this addresses your comment.
Jurs

jurs

Also I wanted to point out that I'm not Df'd. I DA'd myself.

Stealth

Hello Jurs,

I don't believe that we have met yet. It sounds like you want to go. So if you decide to, be as nice as you can to everyone there.

Look them strait in the eyes when you greet them. If they shun you, ask them if they are not feeling well and show concern for their well being. When you do this will make them even more uncomfortable, because they are acting out of fear. They will look like the fools.

Remember you have NOTHING to fear. This is just a programmed response taught by their leaders. It is the JWs who have the phobia of those labeled apostates. So use that to your advantage, you will be able to quickly tell who your true friends are.

Regards, Stealth

nytelecom1

sorry, never meant to give the impression that
i was harassing you.

it just seemed odd that someone who has been exposed
to the org for that long
would not know what it was like to shun

thats all

jurs

Nytelecom1,

Its different for sisters with unbelieving mates and without family in the org. Were not privvy to all the gossip and invites. I had only a FEW close friends and I know that its the same for Angie. Its lonely being a witness when your the only one in your family. I know that Angie doesn't have close friends at this hall. Her situation is similar to what mine was. When yuou study and your first in all you see is the facade at the hall. I really believed that all those families were so perfect. It took a long time for me to see any hypocrisy and the ill effects of shunning actually thats why I left. So for me it took 10 years. I had a friend who hid her alcoholism because she was scared to death of being shunned. She even threatened suicide if I told on her. Being the crappy friend that I was I told to be free of bloodguilt. It woke me up to question what the hell kind of religion did I get myself into. Sorry to repeat that story again, I'm sure many are sick of reading it. Jurs

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