Sharon's memorial

by Mulan 17 Replies latest jw friends

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  VeniceIT

  Very well said. It was a beautiful service for Sharon, just what she would have wanted. When her two sons spoke there was not a dry, I was crying, it was very touching. Both boys told some stories had had a lot of humor, which I found very comforting and entertaining. It had been a long and painful process, and we were so releived that she was suffering no longer, even though she'll be greatly missed by her friends and family.

  The reception afterward and her sisters was WONDERFUL, that's exactly what I'd like at mine. There were tons of people and family, great food and there was a lot of laughing and reminising. It was great to see all the kids playing together in the grass, and it was a very enjoyable gathering, one that I'll remember for a very long time!

  Well we're going to be leaving here (Princess's) shortly and I'll be over with Mulan this afternoon, so if I think of anything more to post I'll be sure to add it.

  Ven

  P.S. It was kinda fun being around some JW's and not having them know I'm Df'd! hahaha
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  WildHorses

  Mulan,

  I was in tears when reading this. I read Sharons web page a few months ago and really admired her.

  The two witnesses who left the service...........My hope is that they too will realize what kind of "loving" religion they are in, and soon leave themselves.

  I really hope there is a Heaven, and that Sharon is looking down at you, so she can really see the love you have for her.

  God bless.

  Lilacs
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  DannyBear

  Marylin,

  What struck me is the almost drone-like way all jw's act, when they find themselves in such an uncomfortable position.

  They can't just quietly and unabtrusively get up and leave. They have to huff and puff, scratch the floors while moving their chairs back. Almost as thought they must somehow, display indignation which in some weird sort of way seem to absolve them from the searing guilt their consciences are experiencing, at the moment they are acting like bafoons. Those two who left, will feel the effects of their conduct, no matter how they verbalize excuses.

  Glad things went so well...not a fun day, but one thing these so-called 'worldly' people have known for a long time, is that funerals and memorials that offer real tribute to the lost loved one, are the only thing that really helps to assuage the loss.

  Danny
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  Tatiana

  Marilyn, I am in tears right now. I feel so honored that you would use the poem I posted at her memorial. Thank you.....
  She is no longer in pain. Peace is hers now.
  Hopefully the ones who left will seriously think about this "loving" religion. To get up and walk out of her service was the epitome of selfishness! You, her sons, and her "other" family showed the greatest love of all.

  April

  "Love never dies." Voivodul Vlad Draculea (from Bram Stoker's Dracula-1992)
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  puppylove

  What I think is so wonderful about this funeral, as someone said before, is that Sharon was celebrated. HER life was spoken of, HER good works were brought out, HER family spoke of their love for her. None of this cold-no-fealing-this-is-what-we-believe BS of Jdubs.

  My husband's jw step-father died a few months ago. They only thing they think about is "giving a good witness to the worldly relatives." Maybe 2-3 minutes of the whole "memorial talk" was given to discussing his step-fathers life. And most of that was wasted on how he became a jdub.

  I'm so happy that Sharon was comforted in life, and in death, by a truly spiritual person.
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  Princess

  I think Sharon would have loved it, maybe she was there to see it. When Brian was telling the stories from when the boys were young, I could see the way Sharon would have reacted to it. She would have put her hand up by her mouth and bent her head a bit as she laughed at the memory of her youngest son and his first taste of Ivory soap.

  I agree with Ven, not a dry eye in the room. It was all very moving and comforting at the same time.

  I attended my grandfathers memorial at the KH on Saturday, then Sharon's on Sunday. I had made a comment to my cousins never-a-dub-husband about how we were invisible at the KH. He gave me a big hug after Sharon's memorial and asked me if I was feeling more welcome. It was so sweet. He was right too, it was so awful to feel unwelcome at my grandpa's memorial. Everyone was hugging everyone at Sharons. I know she wouldn't have changed a thing.

  I'll never forget it.

  Princess
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  Jang

  Thankyou for posting that Mulan.....

  I have had a few tears reading it and still find it hard to believe she has gone. the times we chatted will always remain in my heart and mind. Sharon was truly a lovely person inside.

  I went to a funeral a coule of years back of a young ex-Jw girl who had just come to know the true Lord. She died peacefully in her sleep. Her mother and relatives had to get permission to attend her funeral at the Baptist church ..... and her ex-JW father and brother were really so moving.

  Like in sharon's funeral, it was a celebration of her life and a witness of God's love for us ...... and the JW's squirmed in that front row like they had a bad dose of worms!!

  It is so different isn't it ..... one celebrates death and the other celebrates life ....

  All of you give each other a hug for me will you and give one to the rest of the family ...... I really came ot love and appreciate Sharon the short time I was able to get to know her

  Hugs

  JanG
  CAIC Website: http://caic.org.au/zjws.htm
  Personal Webpage: http://uq.net.au/~zzjgroen/
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  Mulan

  JanG, Sharon really enjoyed all your emails, and we often discussed the little gems you sent her. During the last few months, she had a laptop computer by her side, at her recliner in the living room, that Sean had set up for her, because she was unable to get into the office in her wheelchair with the large computer (the cancer in her spine made it impossible for her to walk for some time). She looked forward to going over all the emails everyday, from you and others who sent them regularly to cheer her. Her son, Sean, read three little stories that someone sent to her that she had saved in her folder, because they meant a lot to her. They probably came from you.

  During the last two weeks, she never opened another email. The cancer in her brain had caused her to forget how to do many things, and that was one of them. In a week or two, I am going to make a couple of pages on my website about her, and put up pictures and the poems and stories that were meaningful to her. Stay tuned!!

  Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)