by Esmeralda 14 Replies latest jw friends
Ray Skyhorse,
You have a lot of good commom sense. I wish I could think as clear as you sometimes.
Well its irion sharpening irion. Its advice like this that keeps me coming to this board.
Former elder turned apostate (by WT definition)[:)}and proud of it!
Essie! This made me cry. The reason is with my kids it was the opposite. For six long years I was the one shoving the Watchtowershit down their throats. And their dad (my ex) was having them birthday parties and holidays. And I was doing my job of "inclucating" guilt trips on them. Essie, thank God you are out and your daughter will likely never be one of them! It breaks my heart when one of my girls says something like, "I remember I made that pumpkin and you got mad at me...." Uhhhh. My heart is broken. I wasted those precious years.
Hi it's me again.
Essie said, "But I will tell you what I am going to do. I am going to once again, sit my ex down and tell him that he has to stop taking her to meetings two days in a row on the weekend. It's too much for a little one. She said to me this morning "I can't take it anymore."
I worry when you say this because I know that if my ex had told me that my girls had told him they hated meetings and couldn't 'take it anymore' I would have really laid on the guilt trip. Just looking at it from both angles. You don't want to add to her burden.
Also, can you give me your site address, please and also freepeace? Thank you.
Essie,
I feel for you, and I'm certainly glad about some of the good advice you have been given.
It's difficult but I think you will make the right moves.
I'll defend your right to say it, but it doesn't mean I beleive it.
Hey Bluesapphire...thanks for your e mail last night! I will reply to it, honestly! It was so sweet of you to think of me :)
you said:
I worry when you say this because I know that if my ex had told me that my girls had told him they hated meetings and couldn't 'take it anymore' I would have really laid on the guilt trip. Just looking at it from both angles. You don't want to add to her burden.
Thanks, I will definitely think about that. The last thing I want to do is make more stress for her.
I'm not trying to get him to stop taking her to meetings completely (because I know if I did that, he'd only push harder in the other direction just to be obstinate) I am trying to get him to stop taking her to a Saturday morning bookstudy, then a Sunday meeting. It's just too much for one little kid in two days. On top of that sometimes they go in service too. She hardly gets to really 'see' her Dad, because her bottom is too busy warming a seat at the KH. I will definitely think about what you said, thanks *hug*!
Ray, nice to meet you. I appreciate your thoughts so much. It's funny because I actually said to her today, if you get bored during the meeting think about all the things you can do at home that you can't do at Dad's. She said "Like Christmas? Birthdays?" I nodded. She already has a great imagination so I'm hoping that will help to get her through some of the boredom.
I know I excelled in daydreaming to get through meetings! *lol*
Thanks to everyone who replied to this thread for all your encouragement. I posted this for myself, to get input but also so that others who are going through this will know they're not alone.
I appreciate all the warm responses. I'll say goodnight now, off to sleep early tonight.
*hugs* and thanks
essie
