Yes, they did. I wasn't ugly by far. I could have had numerous dates with worldly guys. Instead I was treated like I was tainted because I was divorced (non virgin) sister with a toddler. So I settled for someone I didn't love. Someone that came highly recommended by his family and the local elders.
He was very pushy about marriage. He moved away shortly after we started dating and we dated long distance. Meanwhile, the congo got together and planned and paid for my wedding, everything except my daughter's dress. I got terrible feelings the week before the wedding when he showed up for a week. I was too scared to back out. He later commented that I looked unhappy in my wedding photos.
We lasted 18 very mismatched years. He divorced me. I just never could measure up to the capable wife of Proverbs. I didn't fight him. He got almost everything because I was stranded in Hawaii and didn't know there was a final hearing called. There were only 30 days to object. I didn't find out in time. The sad thing is, he thought he'd be so happy and he'd find another wife easily. He's still single. No one will date him due to his constant, bitter complaining. He drinks heavily every night. I wish he could find happiness.
I've found a much better match.
A foot note. My ex secretly, psychologically abused my daughter. She will not speak to him or allow him to see her children. She's not a witness. She's upset with him over the abuse.