Just have to vent about supposed full grown son

by restrangled 30 Replies latest social family

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  restrangled

  I am so angry right now. I'm trying to get the house, yard, and self ready for a one week trip tomorrow. I just got a call from my 22 year old son who lives with us. He is not working. He is going to school, which we are paying for. He took his dad's new truck out to Cocoa Beach to go surfing. (My husband is in Chicago for the weekend)

  Anyway the phone call was to let me know that he lost the keys in the ocean, and some one has to drive the 2 hour trip to bring him another key, (with gas being 3 dollars plus a gallon). Thankfully my younger son, who works full time was home to drive out the spare key with the promise he would get gas money from his older brother. Where that gas money is coming from, I have no idea, on the other hand yes I do. It costs $72.00 to fill my husband's truck and about the same to fill my younger son's truck. (Younger son pays for his own gas)

  This older son was given a car --1993 Chevy Lumina with 65,000. present miles on it by me. But because I bought it from his grandmother he feels he doesn't need to drive it, especially when he sees new vehicles in the driveway. We are maintaining the insurance and tags on it.

  I know this is our fault as parents. Little by little you get whittled away about stuff, especially growing up as a JW, you want to give your kids every opportunity possible, support them in their endevours, etc., but I'm through! I tend to be the softee and now I'm paying for it. It seems one way or another being raised a JW just keeps costing in one area or another.

  So.........

  As the saying goes, (JUST WAIT TILL YOUR FATHER GETS HOME!)....Party is over!!!!!!

  Thanks for listening.

  PS. I just realized, he has called on two strange phone numbers, so apparently he lost his $200.00 cell phone also.

  ARGGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!

  r.
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  Elsewhere

  And people wonder why only 1 in 5 births made it to adulthood before modern times.
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  Scully

  Sounds like he'll need to get a job in order to make restitution on the gas, making a new key for the truck, and to purchase a new cell phone. Get him to do all the legwork too: calling the dealer to find out how much the new key costs and making arrangements to have it made, calling the cell phone provider and telling them that his phone is lost, cancelling the service (paying the penalties for cancellation), and making him save his money to purchase a new one.

  Hopefully he only left his phone in the truck and was locked out when he lost the keys for the truck, but I would insist that he "got himself into this position, and it's his job to get out of that position." No truck driving privileges PERIOD until he has made restitution.
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  collegegirl21

  So you'd rather him stop going to school for an education to get a better job?
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  Scully

  So you'd rather him stop going to school for an education to get a better job?

  If he has an entire day to spend at the beach and lose car keys and a cell phone, don' t you think it might have been better spent working? He certainly wasn't "studying" at the beach, now was he? Just because he's "in school" doesn't give him the right to be irresponsible and expect everyone else to clean up the messes he makes.
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  Cabin in the woods

  He can go to work AND go to school.... countless other people do it!!

  cab
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  collegegirl21

  Of course that's the parents point of view. Its summer, so school is out.
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  blondie

  I went to college carrying 12 credits, worked a full-time and a part-time job and had no support from my family. I went to school with 5 other people with similar circumstances but with one other factor, they were parents themselves, one woman with 2 children. Yes, many, many people have gone to school and held a job at the same time.

  Blondie
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  restrangled

  College girl 21,

  No, I'd rather he get a part time job to pay for gas, insurance, haircuts, hobbies, and cell phone. Also to pay for his clothes habit,....and I don't know how to spell this but Abacombrie Fitch? Underwear, $20.00 per pair, Shirts $60.00, also jeans from another company called "papercloth", ..$200.00 per pair.

  I refuse to pay for these outrageous prices when my husband and I shop at Marshalls, TJ maxx and Stein Marts.

  I will buy if on sale but that Abacrombie thing is so outrageous I want to scream. They are full of the cheapest fabrics....rags, leather and the most wrinkled garbage I have ever seen.

  I defy anyone buying this crap to disagree.

  The consumers of these products are sold on a designer "concept" which is disgusting in my opinion. How sad these young people are taken in based on toilet paper level clothing.

  r.
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  Scully

  Of course that's the parents point of view. Its summer, so school is out.

  All the more reason why he should be working now. He's got way too much time on his hands, and is mooching off his parents far too liberally. As his mom pointed out, he is not satisfied to live within his means (which is "zero" by the way, since he isn't working) and feels that he is entitled to own $20 pairs of underwear, $200 pairs of jeans, etc. at someone else's expense. That's irresponsible.

  Getting a summer job is not going to kill him. Puh-leeeze.