Are you happier out of the org? (page 4)

Honesty

The Watchtower Society has nothing to offer but doom and gloom.

Yes, I'm happier because I am not in the spiritual darkness of the Watchtower Society and its cult.

my conscience is clear.

my friends, though few, are true.

my husband, though not jw or religious, is honest, gentle, sweet, loving.

my God is forgiving, merciful and full of grace.

the most difficult thing is not having all the answers as i once did. but that was just an illusion anyway.

i am happier.

Lady Lee

Dobbie

i do get scared at the thought of being shunned by people i have to see on a daily basis.

I remember the first time it happened to me. It was the husband of what I thought was my closest friend. He was in the line for the bank machine and was about 10 people ahead of me. I ignored him because I thought that I had to. He was the one who left the line. it hurt.

But I eventually came to realize just how controlling it all was. I was DFed for a one-time sin while my elder-husband got a very light tap on the wrist for 15 years of abuse. It was so hard to wrap my heart around the idea that these people were more scared of what the elders could do to them than they cared about someone who was close to them.

And to be honest, yup I did it to others too so there was a lot of shame about that.

The best thing for you and your family is to learn to live well. Shunning is such a small part of my life now. In the beginning I used to hunker down and pretend to be invisible. Now I stand tall knowing I am no longer living in fear of the Almighty WTS

ex-perfectdaughter

I haven't left for good yet...but the more I fade the happier I am. I don't miss most people in the hall and the few that are honestly good people I realized they didn't have unconditional love for me. They never really knew the real me....what kind of friendship is that? What kind of friend is only your friend if you believe the same way they do, or if you are at the same place they are every Tues, Thurs nights, and Sunday morning?? Doesn't make sense. If they really loved you they love you for you...the good, the bad and the ugly parts of you. That's a true friend. And as long as they are in the Borg they can never be a true friend.

Athanasius

Yes, very much.

blondie

Yes, very happy. I wish I had done it sooner.......

dobbie

Thanks for all your comments and for making me (a ) welcome here and (b) not the only person to be going through all this. Until i got on the internet i truly thought i was the only person!

undercover

Welcome dobbie...

I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said but I just wanted comment on what a great nickname you picked. When we were active JWs weren't we like a house elf slaving for a mean taskmaster? Except in our case, we don't need our owner to give us an article of clothing so we can leave, when we figure out that the emporer has no clothes we free ourselves.

jgnat

Interrupting here....hi, dobbie, nice to have you aboard....passing through.....undercover, I just LOVE your new avatar.

cyberdyne systems 101

Its a bit like the film the Matrix, life outside isnt easier in lots of ways at first, you have a big learning curve trying to find who you are and what you want, find new friends etc. Some want to return to that illusion like in the film, because you don't have to think too much. For me i'm still having feelings of anger towards the lies, I feel lonely myself in my everyday life, and yet i've now met some great people on here, which helps loads. But I could never go back, now I know the reality. As someone said Its better to be awake than asleep in someone else's dream. Life outside isnt easy to adapt to but its very possible and talking here helps a lot. Welcome to you and your new life.

CS 101

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