Thanks I'm home and angry

hambeak

I am angry because my adult children who are active jw's think I should be dead or suffer for not being a witness and I supported them comfortably and they shunned me and show hate I am sad and probably won't do the chemo thing and just let nature take its course. Any ideas? I am taking pain Meds so this is probably messed up with my message HELP. What do I do?

grey matters

Well, it's up to you of course. But it sounds like the surgery went well (other thread). I would do the chemo thing. Look at it this way. Witnesses always hope we will come back to the org. We can always hope they will leave the org. I hate to admit it, but I shunned my sister when she left until I realized she was right. I apologized to her for that, and she accepted my apology.

Forscher

Do what's best for you and screw them!!!!
Forscher

Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit

We need you.

stevenyc

hambeak: I am sad and probably won't do the chemo thing and just let nature take its course.

I'm not sure what you are saying here? Are you saying that you will not commit to your therapy?

PLEASE, advise!

steve

hambeak

Steve thanks! I just don't know what I will do. My doctor said he thinks he got most of the adno carcinoma in my large intestine I HURT LIKE HELL!! I am taking Vicodin for the pain and am supposed to take chemo for a while. When I called my kids that everything looked pretty good they told me they were sorry Jah didn't let me die on the operating table and just go to gehenna. I don't want to leave soon from this earth because I really have a pretty good life. However I love my kids no matter what but the love is not returned because of the so called truth.

Jake says screw them as He loves me and so does his family. But they are my blood and I brought them into this world. I guess I may just go crazy.

looking_glass

Gary - I think right now something else is expressing your decision on what your future holds. Ask your doctor to provide you with names of therapy groups. The groups will help you address your fear of the illness and the reality of what can come with the illness. Therapy can also help you address the issues that you are going thru, including the fact that your family is rejecting you for all the reasons you posted before.

Gary, remember what you said before ... I AM GOING TO FIGHT THIS! Those were your words. You cannot give up because your children have given up on you. Keep in mind god does not give up on people. JWs give up on people

Whatever your decision it should be based on information and what is best for you and that may include no chemo/no radiation. But you have to decide what you think will be the best based on everything that is given to you by your doctors, not on the emotions you are feeling because your JW children are being unloving and hateful.

Good luck and please keep us posted.

AudeSapere

Chemo's a bitch. And apparently so are you kids (under cult-control).

But chemo can fix the cancer and I know you have other things in your live now and in the future that you do and will enjoy.

If we're voting, I vote for chemo. I've been in your spot.

In fact, I had a good and honest talk with my oncologist before committing to treatment. I didn't realize that I had been in a cult at the time but I was terribly depressed and family relations were strained. Somehow I thought I was the problem and I really wasn't interested in going thru all the hassle and expense of treatment to buy myself another 37 years.

I'm glad I went through with the plan. I'm MUCH happier now.

PM me if you want to talk more about this.

-Aude.

okie46

Dear Hambeak,

I am glad you are home and so sorry you are in so much pain. When someone finds out they have an illness that could be terminal, you go through the same 5 stages of grief as when you lose a loved one. Please talk to a counselor or let us be your sounding board. Don't close your options, you have your partner Jake by your side and you can overcome this.

I am sick with 103 fever myself tonight, but I will find some information on the stages of grief and send it to you in a day or so. Okay?

Please take care and know that many people care even though we have never met you.

Okie

serendipity

Hi hambeak,

Glad you're back with us! I understand why you're angry with your kids. I would suggest contacting your kids and telling them you're hurt they aren't supporting you while you're ill. Ask them: What does honoring their father mean to them? Even the WT doesn't tell family members to shun other family members who are seriously ill.

If you're not comfortable having that discussion with your kids, ask those elders who are stopping by your business to have the conversations with them. Or call the elders in their congregation.

edited to add: I just read your next post. They said terrible things to you. Perhaps you should remind them that Jesus will do the judging.

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