The elders avoid me like the plague. I only see them at meetings, which I attend irregularly. And I get one visit each new Circuit Overseer.
I have health problems, and I used them as the basis for my resignation as an Elder. They are real, and they are hard to endure. But a larger reason for my resignation was Elder hypocrisy and lying. I grew tired of their double standards, their appeal to their own beliefs instead of the Bible, and their self-worship.
So, how did I get them to stay away? Well, I'd been an Elder for over twenty years and I was a Congregation Servant before that. You may have heard me speak at some District Convention. I know Witness theology better than they do. I know the Bible better than they do. (Sounds haughty, doesn't it? But they simply weren't and aren't Bible students. We don't train our elders as we should, and few train themselves.)
The last elder visit (without a Circuit Overseer as "protection") was by two brothers who tried to use a verse from Romans. The application given it was a common one, but it differs significantly from what the Watchtower says. It's not uncommon for Elders to interpret verses far differently than the Watchtower does. So, I called them on it. I was polite, mostly, but very pointed. It shifted the focus of our little gathering off me and onto them.
Also, the one wanted me to "report my time." Well, guess what, brother. I'm mostly bed ridden. Did it ever occur to you, that's why I don't have much time to report? There are other issues as well. One of those being a Circuit Overseers suggestion that I "made up" the hours I reported. He said my reports were unwelcome. I took him at his word, and I just stopped reporting. I was just becoming incapacitated. I wasn't going door to door very much because I was in bed or medicated into insensibility. But I was witnessing incidentally all I could, and I had two bible studies going. So, I told them what happened. They said, "well, you shouldn't have listened to him." But they listen to Circuit Overseers and District Overseers as if their word is divine. They will act on a Circuit Overseer's opinion even when it's contrary to Society policy, or even when it's contrary to the Bible.
There was more. But the lesson is this: Put them on the spot. Make them the issue. Do it politely and truthfully. Either they can handle it, or they can't.
Me? I still reject Elder behaviour. I believe the theology, without the side issues of who will be resurrected and foolishness like that. God determines those things, and no amount of back and forth speculation will change his decision. I know our history better than most. I know what we said, and when we said it. I'm not desturbed over most of those things. But I am distrubed by elder conduct and the tendency of Watch Tower Officials to ignore the Bible when it comes to human interaction. They speak fine words. From the Governing Body down, their practice does not match what is taught.