Yes I suppose that's true, work, kids,cleaning, taking care of a yard, take thier toll on our sex life. Maybe that is part of the problem, letting too many things get in the way from having great sex often.
Frankie, from the things you say about your relationship on the forum here, it's possible that you and your partner may be a bit obsessed with sex. Sex can be a wonderful part of life, but when you carry it to the point that it matters too much and you're doing things like swinging, it may be a little too important. Especially if kids are living in your home. Kids are not stupid, they will figure out what's going on eventually.