Im a long time witness but the last District Convention with all of it's "Don't think for yourself" propoganda led me to this board. Lately I've been trying to formulate a plan, to try and reason with her and get us both out (although her whole family is in, and probably will be till death) My wife has at times been dissilussioned with the org, but, ironically, I'm usually the one to comfort her and tell her to wait on Jehovah. Last night she was bothered by something going on in the cong, and she asked me what's the point of staying in the religion. I had to play the part, but my conscience didn't allow me to tell her it was worth it to stay in, when I know it's a waste. I simply told her to not overreact (It seemed to work) Did I miss my opportunity? I've been looking for a good opportunity to bring up how I feel, but I'm terrified of what's going to happen. What if she decides to leave me for "Spiritual endangerment". Is this likely based on WT rules? Should I wait for another opportunity like this, when she might be open to reasoning? BTW, hello all
Did I miss my opportunity?
by StillGroggy 24 Replies latest jw experiences
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fullofdoubtnow
Hi StillGroggy, and welcome to the forum.
You may have missed an opportunity this time, but if your wife is questioning things, I would think another one will present itself before long. Maybe you can plan ahead, and be more ready for it next time.
Good luck for if and when it comes.
Linda
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serendipity
Welcome Groggy,
I think you can use the last opportunity. Just say to your wife, "I've had time to think about what you said and these are some considerations.... Can you think of any others?" You can lay out the considerations, in nonthreatening statements or questions. You might share one or two minor doubts of your own.
If she is hesitant when you bring it up, you might suggest a break in JW activities to her, say for 3 months or 6 months and then y'all re-evaluate the situation.
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LittleToe
It would be ironic if you were to find she already posts here
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AuntieJane
I agree w. Serendipity. Prepare yourself well and use the opportunity. Baby steps.
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StillGroggy
Hello All, Good suggestions.
Serendipity, I think I'm going to bring some things up during our family study.
previously I considered just DAing myself but It's probably better if I get her thinking FIRST and try to open up the communication. She pointed out a masonic symbol she spotted on an old pub in one of the mags, so eventually i want to get into the weird russel pyramid obsession stuff
also, she must've missed the whole "generation" switcheroo in 1995, which is no suprise to me, I would've missed it if it wasn't for someone pointing it out to me (An older sister who was really struggling with it emotionally). So I'll probably discuss that with her and observe her reaction. Since most of you probably have experience at talking with JW family, do these ideas sound good?
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OnTheWayOut
Me, too:
I agree w. Serendipity. Prepare yourself well and use the opportunity.
She's ready to go, just needs your support.
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TheKings
reassure her you are feeling the same way. it will make it easier to talk.
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StillGroggy
LittleToe, I would love that! You never know!
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TheKings
ironically, she may be wanting to tell you exactly what you want to tell her^