All of the Lost Loves

Sparkplug

Today I was typing out thoughts on a thread and it struck me. I have not seen my one sister in 20 years. She has missed out on one of my children completely.

She has not seen my older ones since they were little bitty. I have never seen her new husband and she never met my second (and long gone) husband. I don't think I would recognize her now.

Having just seen a video that features a person that looks like my sister, I realized that I envision my sister of 20 years ago. Who knows what she looks like now.

I have been apart from her longer than I was with her.

That thought puts a whole new spin on perspective.

Decki

What about you? Have you NOT known your JW Family longer than you knew them?

avishai

(((((Sparkplug)))))

It's her loss. Yours too for this moronic idiot religion.

If I had missed out on the beautiful strong men my brothers had become, I don't know what I'd do. Thank you for letting us know the beautiful, kind, funny person you have become.

Sparkplug

Thank you for letting us know the beautiful, kind, funny person you have become.

You know Av? When I hear you speak of your brother I wonder what it would be like to know my sisters now that I am grown. And I am almost not sure that I miss her exactly. I don't really have an attachment anymore. I just want to have an attachment and a sister. Does not have to be her. That is why some of the ladies here have made my heart so warm. It is that sister thang'.

choosing life

I feel sorry that you have lost your sister and can not have the relationship you both deserve. I hate shunning and see it for what it is- control and pure evil.

JWdaughter

You can never have too many people to love. Don't they say friends are God's way of making up to you for your relatives?

greendawn

They have been duped into giving up family life with ex members because supposedly the end is so near and the ex JWs must be punished hard to return and be saved, there isn't time for any hanky panky. How much more perverted can they be to present an act of cruelty as an act of love just like the medieval popes.

garybuss

I haven't seen by brother since 1992. I've kinda forgotten about him. Him and his buddies caused me a lot of problems. Those problems I haven't forgotten about.

Nowman

Have not seen my dad since October 1992. 14 years. He is still an active JW.

Nikki

Good Girl or Bad Girl?

You know Av? When I hear you speak of your brother I wonder what it would be like to know my sisters now that I am grown. And I am almost not sure that I miss her exactly. I don't really have an attachment anymore. I just want to have an attachment and a sister. Does not have to be her. That is why some of the ladies here have made my heart so warm. It is that sister thang'.

Spark, you are my big sister. I love you so much. My big sister is just like your sister and she won't speak to me. It hasn't been very long yet, but I don't hold any high hopes of things changing. I actually know in my heart things will get worse before they will ever get better.

I believe this religion is a cult because of the family shunning. Much love to you, Dex.

Good Girl/Bad Girl

Frannie Banannie

Sparky, I have real live sisters. When Mom was still alive and we all met there occasionally, I tried then and even after Mom died to keep in touch with each one, hopefully to keep us all in touch over the years. To maintain our familial status.

One was in the WTS, as I was, but she bought the whole rumor enchillada when I forced them to df me, back in '92.

The thing is, even though I tried so hard to keep in touch with each one and hoped that we could all remain family and closer than we were, it didn't work. They, every last one, shun each other, as if each were better than the rest. This isn't due to the teachings of the WTS, because none of the others, excepting the one older sister, ever had anything to do with the WTS. I guess it's just the product of being raised in a disfunctional family.

As a result, I don't even bother anymore. And I've found myself pushing people away from me when any signs of a closer friendship than just a superficial acquaintancy crop up. Probably because I've been rejected by my whole family. But then I began rejecting people early on, when the childhood sexual abuse was in high gear in my early life.

I contacted my older sis last year, to see if she'd thawed any. She hadn't. I just blew her off and forgot about it.

Hugs

Frannie

All of the Lost Loves

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