All of the Lost Loves

by Sparkplug 12 Replies latest jw friends

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  solo

  My brother has chosen to cut me and the rest of the family out of his life. I've really not seen anything of him since 1987. I have never met his children, he has never met my other brother's children and the cousins have never met.

  I did see him briefly about 6 years ago at a funeral and was shocked at the person he had become. There was no life in him, last time I had seen him he was full of life and energy. Well not anymore, the cult has turned him into some sort of drone. I just listened to him waffling to my dad in some low monotonic voice and thought my god you are boring, don't you have a personality anymore.

  Can't say I honestly miss him in my life though, he was such a interfering trouble maker, but it's a shame for the kids no to know their family and for my parents never to see their grandchildren.
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  BrendaCloutier

  I have a step-brother (I was adopted, he is their natural child) that has never liked me. Ever! He's 10 years older than me. He got married and moved out at 18 - I was 8.

  When I got married and moved out, I invited him and his family, including 3 children over for dinner. I wanted to do my family "thang". He kept backing out of dates until I finally asked: "When can yo come to dinner" and he replied "probably never". Yes, it hurt.

  I hadn't seen him in 20 years. Then I saw him at my dads funeral. I walked up to him, and being the same height as him, I looked him straight in the eye and simply said "hello." He looked me up and down, in the eye, and said something like "what? is this some kind of joke? who are you?" (I'm thinking 'ya gotta be kidding - you prick') And I told him, "I'm you little sister." "Oh, hi" and he walked away. Ooooo what a prick.

  The rest of my "family" was pleasant if not welcoming and supportive. But I dont' know them. I havent' known them for 30 years, since I left. Ya know what? I no longer care.
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  hambeak

  I haven't seen my 3 brothers in over 20 years, as for my mom, when I would call her while she was living with my younger brother his bitch of a wife wouldn't let me talk with her so one day I called the police and had them go by the house they lived in Napa Ca. and I live in Dallas, Tx. So I just couldn't go there to check on her. Then one day they were all gone. I google searched for them all and 6 years later I found my mother she had died in Arizona in a nursing home xmas eve 2003. I still have my memories of long past but I still have bitter feelings for the way dubs teach hatred. PS they are all still active Jws as far as I know