Hello everyone!
I am so glad I found this place. Everyone is so supportive and kind! Thanks to all for your responses to my previous threads and I have taken much of your advice to heart. I had submitted my story about how difficult it has been living at home with my mother who is a devout JW. I am very happy to say that I have moved out and have my own apartment. I am also only 5 minutes from my job! Yipee! Wow, how things have improved drastically. Funny how the double standards in the "truth" continue to amaze me. My mother allows my pregnant disfellowshipped sister to live in her house and now she is going to let her boyfriend move in and live there with them. Of course I love my mother and sister both very much - they are my family, but I am about to be completely shunned as soon as my letter of disassociation is read by the elders. While they will all be forbidden to talk to me (except my DF sister) they will be accepting a DF'd relative and her "worldy" boyfriend with open arms and full accomodations. Does this make any sense? Or does anything that the WT teach make any sense to begin with? A member of this forum here gave me some excellent advice. I wish I could remember his screenname - if you recognize this please step forward because I want to give you credit. You said (not verbatim) that you treat JW's as if the they are mentally ill. Do not question the delusion that they live under. About three years ago, when my marriage fell apart, I ended up in the hospital due to severe depression. I remember seeing a lot of patients with so many delusions. It was unwise and futile for me to try and convince the schizophrenic that his "friend" was not real, but only a delusion in his mind. In fact, he may have become violent if I tried. How many witnesses have you questioned started becoming agitated and perhaps even raised their voice? I have only recently discovered the mental programming that takes place inside the organization. There is a programmed answer to every question. If you try to question the changing doctrines, the answer is always "the light is getting brighter". There is no thinking or reasoning - just a response that is planted in the brain.
The one thing that has bothered me most is that there is absolutely nothing within the organization that truly helps people with everyday living. There are no volunteer services to assist the less fortunate - no assisted living - no nothing. The solution is always more field service, meeting attendance, personal study, and more prayer. All talk and no real action. Only fellow JW's are worthy of help - that is if they are active enough and get at least the national average in field service. When I could not get out in field service one month, do you know what advice was offered? "Well, Sister Sickly can pioneer! Why can't you get at least ten hours?" I have fallen in the comparison trap numerous times.
I have a girlfriend (yes, she is an evil "worldy" girl) that has asked about my family and wants to meet them. After all, she and I are very close and it is only natural to desire acceptance from the family. She is a very sweet woman with a love for life and a love for people. I am having trouble explaining why they will avoid her. My non-JW relatives have gladly opened there arms to her and have a non-judgemental attitude. Recently my neice, who plays violin, had a concert at one of the local colleges. I love to hear her play. My girlfriend really wanted to go with me to the concert. With hesitation, I explained to my mother that I will be taking her with me to see my neice play and perhaps meet the family. My mother said: "Well, if you bring her, you won't sit with us. You will have to sit somewhere else." All the while my sister and her boyfriend will be there - he will be sitting with them as part of the family. I am terribly hurt by this. For a religion that preaches love, kindness and all the fruitages of the spirit, I see no Christ-like attributes among them. I see people who are so hypmotized and controled by a man-made organization that they have no concept of logic and reasoning.
Thanks for letting me vent!