by avishai 33 Replies latest jw friends
Ooops hit the wrong button...
Anyhow, they are now twenty five and twenty and our bond is water tight. Just last week my son rang and invited me to a dance party.
I had a bliss moment dancing with my boy, seeing his big grin and the admiration of his mates who I reckon were a little envious of love and consideration of each other.
Andy
My son just gained custody of his daughter. He has been working on this for years. The mother is so awful at it, after she had my grand daughter she had 3 more. The mother is a drug user and abuser. Dumps the kids, and runs around.
It makes me sick that women can get away with getting child support, not care for kids, and use the kids as blackmail against the father. When I became a single mom, I knew no single fathers at all. It amazes me how many men have custody of their children. I think all along alot of men wanted their children but the court system always awarded custody to the mother.
So now my son takes his daughter to the daycare, before school and makes sure she is picked up in the afternoon. I am proud of him for hanging in there, his daughter is 6, he and the mother never married, but did try living together.
We had to watch all this go on though, drug abuse, moving from one place to another, getting evicted, dropping the little girl off and not coming back for days to get her. Fineally, she just gave my son his daughter after a costly lawyer was hired and a drug test was going to be done by a hair sample. She knew it would come back positive and did not even show up for court.
Anyone that cares for a child alone has a very tough job. The sacrifice is great, but the rewards are greater. Single dads seem to get alot more admiration than single moms. Kudos for them. Just as long as the children feel loved and cared for....whatever it takes.
purps
Hi DoofDaddy!!!!
How have you been? That's great that you and your son got together!!
Like I had said before, most Dad's are wonderful caregivers. They may not do things the same way as a Mother would, but so what! They have a lot to offer their kids.
Have you ever seen the video "Bill Cosby Himself". It is so funny. If you can you should watch it.
Hugs,
Juni
Hi Purps!!
You are full of wisdom grasshopper! Good for your son. Shows what a good mom influence he had as didn't you raise your kids by yourself Purps??
didn't you raise your kids by yourself Purps??
yes, they did not accept the truth, but they are all good kids, amazingly so.
Purps said about her kids:
yes, they did not accept the truth, but they are all good kids, amazingly so.
That's why they are non judgmental and caring people. They weren't raised to think that they are above "awful" worldly people! Nature or Nurture? I think it has to do with both.
Mom, you did a great job.
Juni
Hey Avi!!
Hiyya Doofdaddy
I have to say that a dad that stays is the absolute best. In the best scenario there would be a dad and a mom around. I know this is not always possible, but as I said 'in the best scenario'.
Personally as I have told Daystar, and Avi over and over...I admire that they do raise the children. Not many dads nowdays stay when there is a mom, let alone do it alone. So Doof, I now tell you also. Raising and staying around and finishing what you start is the best and most rewarding thing you can do when it comes to children.
I know that many people think that by leaving they are doing whats best for the children, but I once heard that you have an influence on your kids even if you are not there. It is true. Children that have one absent do show it. Be it by abandonment issues or what not.
Anyhow, what do I think of men that raise the children? I love them. I have the utmost respect for them. I know they will appreciate it. (the kiddos that is)
Decki
PurpleSofa said: So now my son takes his daughter to the daycare, before school and makes sure she is picked up in the afternoon. I am proud of him for hanging in there, his daughter is 6, he and the mother never married, but did try living together.
Hey Purplesofa that's fantastic! I think another unwritten rule amongst women is that you never, ever abandon your children for any reason. For any woman to do that earns her a one way ticket to the bottom of society. Kudos to your son.
Avishai, I was a divorced single Mom and I totally empathize. Nuff said.
Frannie
I think that Avi is looking for more than respect here...
Throw the man a bone, ladies!
I think that Avi is looking for more than respect here...
Throw the man a bone, ladies!
hehe... Are you going to answer that, Avi?
