"My Grief over Wasting 10 Years of My Life"

scout575

"Ex-Christians are angry because they are grieving... I voluntarily spent 10 years of my life pursuing a godly life. My fantasy was that I was spending my time well and becoming a better person by following god. My grief over wasting 10 years of my life, is grief over giving up the fantasy."

"Grief usually leads to anger. Embrace your anger for a while but don't let it consume you. Read a book on grief; you have suffered a great loss. Your anger is justified but remember it will pass and there will be sunny skies. You are free! I am free! This is wonderful!!!!" ( Ex-Christian.net / Rants and replies / Anyone else go through an anger stage deconverting? / post# 33 )

Warlock

Try doing it for 20 years, it's twice as bad.

Warlock

Calyndra

~hugs~

I'm feeling it too. Anger scares me. I don't want to feel out of control, but I do... Since Friday night I cannot stay away from these boards and I am flabbergasted that they've been here all along and I didn't think to look for them... I've been out 8 years... was I still in denial somehow?

I wish you well in your grieving process. I am not as knowledgeable as many here, but my heart is with you.

moshe

You are still young enough to reinvent yourself, I was your age when I got out and hardly remember those wasted years at the KH, 18 years later.

Bonnie_Clyde

I wasted over 42 years of my life serving the WT. I was baptized in 1956. In 1998 I went on the Internet, and that was the beginning of my fade. However, for family reasons, I continued to attend some meetings until two months ago. If you want to count those years, I've wasted 50 years of my life--actually more, because I attended meetings spasmodically for two years before my baptism. I doubt if I will ever get over it completely. It has caused a big schism in our family. A lot of relatives, including my father and daughter, have turned against me. Thankfully, my husband and two of my children are also out. That helps a lot.

I wish it could only have been 10 (even 20) years. It's harder to make new friendships at my age.

Bonnie

jaguarbass

Anyone else go through an anger stage deconverting? / post

Yah for the past 23 years. Somedays are better than others.

parakeet

"Anyone else go through an anger stage deconverting?"

When I first left, almost 30 years ago, I was more relieved than angry. My anger finally surfaced earlier this year, when I found this site. My time with the JWs was no trip in the park, but compared with the many heartrending accounts I've read here, I got off lightly. I had not realized how extensive the corruption of this cult was.

Frannie Banannie

OH, Yeahhhhhhhhh. I wasted 20, but also my children's lives were involved and much pain and suffering. I was one badasssssssmofo when I first found a place to chat about this online and there were active jdubyas trolling the chat room. Lots of anger and hostility. It took me about 18 mos to calm down.

smellsgood

Triton_Logic,

what a silly post, I hope your taking the piss because otherwise you've just made a very assanine statement. People suffering, dying, or otherwise hurting as a result of time spent in a high control cult is not spilt milk.

Did you register here to post a stupid comment like that? Are you a practicing witness or something, I bet you are, it comes through in your lack of empathy.

jrjr4189

I am flabbergasted that they've been here all along and I didn't think to look for them... I've been out 8 years... was I still in denial somehow?

I am a similar situation with you. I was out for 8 years as well before I found this board and it was a little much to handle.

Have you read Crisis of Consience yet?

"My Grief over Wasting 10 Years of My Life"

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