The 'exit', the 'healing', the 'deprogramming', are all processes that take time. Not a moment in time.
Those like triton, who make insensitive and inane statements like 'just get over it', have clearly never been witnesses, or are too young to realize the impact that 2, 3, 4 decades of mind-numbing control has on the thought processes. Healing will and does come to most. It is indeed like the grieving process associated with the loss of one you love. JWD [or similar venues] seem to escalate the process [which in most cases is a good thing I would assume], due to a greater level of commonality than most can encounter outside a support group. The common platform of understanding is worth untold millions to some.
I was 'in', depending on how you count it, either 43 years or perhaps less. Such influence is hard to shake. Once one shakes the doctrine and lies and manipulation, many stick around to help others going thru the process anew. Rest assured, we will help where we can.
Jeff