Sex with your divorced mate scripturally wrong?

Fatfreek

Let’s say you’re a JW married couple, get a divorce (unscriptural divorce, that is, so in Jehovah’s eyes you are still married), then both of you change your minds. Well, not completely.

You both realize the sex was great but your other needs and wants have changed in opposite directions.

You both decide that living separately is perfect – except for that occasional sex.

You decide to stay legally divorced. The state you live in (as of 2001 only 7 of the 50 states still classify cohabitation as illegal) has no problem if you decide to shack up as often as you like. Fact is, a sheriff in any of those exceptions is not likely to come pounding on your door.

And remember, in Jehovah’s eyes you are still married.

So what’s the Society’s problem if you both decide to get back together on occasion – or just have a fun weekend together?

Fats

free2beme

My understanding on this was, if your having sex again, then you need to be living together as a married couple and not apart. You would be going about the normal marriage day, living together, talking together, making descisions together, etc. Personally, I thought it was reaching for it. As if they really wanted to live as strict as they did to Bible law. The moment the two divorced, they would be thrown out of the church and that would simply be that. No gray area.

proplog2

JW's should encourage young people to marry and keep living with their own parents. Just think - they could keep pioneering save up some money AND have sex. This almost seems like a no-brainer since they are discouraged from getting the education you need to earn REAL money.

juni

I was under the understanding that by having sex w/your former husband/wife then you have taken them back.

I don't think there's any scriptural truth to this though. Someone correct me if I'm wrong please. I don't believe it matters if your divorce was scriptural or not. But I could be wrong.

I guess that is what happens when manmade "rules" enter the picture. Becomes confusing.

Someone here has to have more complete info then I do though quoting the literature.

Juni

blondie

Actually, the WTS does consider the "laws of Caesar" regarding marriage as being binding on JWs as long as they aren't required to break what the WTS considers "God's law."

The WTS picks and chooses what Mosaic laws it choose to apply the "principle" behind.

Under the Law if a man divorced his wife and she married another, and that husband died, he could not marry his ex-wife.

(Deuteronomy 24:1-4) 24

"In case a man takes a woman and does make her his possession as a wife, it must also occur that if she should find no favor in his eyes because he has found something indecent on her part, he must also write out a certificate of divorce for her and put it in her hand and dismiss her from his house. 2 And she must go out of his house and go and become another man’s. 3 If the latter man has come to hate her and has written out a certificate of divorce for her and put it in her hand and dismissed her from his house, or in case the latter man who took her as his wife should die, 4 the first owner of her who dismissed her will not be allowed to take her back again to become his wife after she has been defiled; for that is something detestable before Jehovah, and you must not lead the land that Jehovah your God is giving you as an inheritance into sin.

katiekitten

You really shouldnt have sex with your ex partner.

There was a REASON why you divorced the SOB in the the first place, and if you end up in bed with him once you dont have to cook his meals and pick up his lousy clothes off the floor, listen to him belch and watch him walk round with his bottom two shirt buttons undone because 'its easier to scratch his belly' then its clear you either have a really short memory or you just arent getting laid by anyone else.

IMO.

south african beef

Nice and to the point as usual KatieK!

I was going to say that you don't beat about the bush, but that saying could be open to all sorts of interpretation!!!!

FlyingHighNow

You both realize the sex was great but your other needs and wants have changed in opposite directions.

In my case, this isn't the case. If I did this with my exhusband it would be wrong. "That's just wro-o-ong.." JW couples have great sex?

aSphereisnotaCircle

and watch him walk round with his bottom two shirt buttons undone because 'its easier to scratch his belly'

LOL, He sounds like a charmer, I'm surprised you let him get away..

stillajwexelder

You would be no longer married in Caesars eyes and would be disfellowshipped simple as that

Sex with your divorced mate scripturally wrong?

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