oh yeah, I forgot about the daily text. I did it with the kids before they went off to school. I think my hubby's problem like it was already brought out is he was just very busy at work and with kh responsiblities. I mean the WT puts way too much expectations on people who have to make a living in the real world. But I know for my hubby personally, he also figured out early on that as long as he looked good on paper (with number stats, etc) he really did not have to put in too much effort and could still be considered "spiritual". The WT's version of spiritual is based on appearances anyway and not any real substance. (like heart condition and real faith). I found in the halls I was in the sisters were hands down much more spiritual and many aux. pioneered with young kids because they wanted to. Not because they had to. Lilly
Sisters, did you notice a trend of husbands not taking the lead?
by truthseeker 15 Replies latest jw friends
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stillajwexelder
Lets be truthful -some men are just not capable of taking the lead - no disrespect to them but they are not. They are the type that will never have a managerial role at work. Similarly there are some women who are borne leaders. Try and alter this WTBTS style and there are bound to be problems. The bible was written in patriarchal times. My wife is infinitely better than me at organization - but I am assertive. So in my case taking the lead can work but I am hopeless at organizing territory and field ministry groups for example
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Justitia Themis
It seems the sisters are more willing to take the lead than their husbands!
I suspect it is a nationwide phenomemon at least. I know an annointed sister whose theory it is that Jehovah placed men in the lead simply to force them the engage somewhat in spiritual activities. Otherwise, she feels men would abdicate all their responsibilities, and the women would end up doing everything. Gee...and they thought it was because they were so special!
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Finally-Free
I know an annointed sister whose theory it is that Jehovah placed men in the lead simply to force them the engage somewhat in spiritual activities.
My dad, who was never a JW but came to a few conventions, made the observation that most women seemed to be listening attentively while their husbands were snoozing through the sessions. I never noticed that though, as I was usually among the first to fall asleep.
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vitty
My husband, who was an MS never did a family study, I always helped my son with his talks, he hated FS and we never prayed over a meal (unless we had guests)
Saying that he had a (real) full time, demanding job. So after comming home, having a kicka bout in the garden with the kids,he really didnt want to do it.
He had so much to do in the KH, it got ridiculous and we all suffered as a family. Then he stepped down, the rest is history.
I really resented it when I was in the org, struggling with the kids on my own but now I see the big picture and realize how over demanding the whole crapola is. And how the whole lifestyle is a facade.
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crazyblondeb
We suffered threw those blasted "family" studies when my dad was feeling guilty. And he drug us out in service alot. But as far as taking the lead as a father, he never did. He ran to the elders anytime we sneezed wrong. Anytime we got in trouble at home or school, there was an elder's meeting. I have always said, my parents didn't raise us, the elders did!!