Do you get stressed talking to JWs?

by jwfacts 19 Replies latest jw friends

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  jwfacts

  I am a salesman, so will talk to anyone, anytime without fear. But for some reason, everytime I need to speak to a JW I get a huge rush of nerves.

  I also am an accountant and do tax returns, and this year lost most of my JW clients. Some went to another accountant in the congregation. I recently received an email from the JW accountant requesting one of my clients old files. It took me some time to collate it all and I sent them through. I got nothing back to say they received them, no thank you, nothing. So I thought I would call to make sure they received it. I can not believe how nervous I was when I called. They said yes they had received it, and sorry that they had been too busy to reply (sure thats the reason). And that was the end of that.

  Do others get this unreasonable fear of JWs?
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  Quandry

  How interesting that you posted this tonight. I just got back home from the Library. While walking to the bathroom, I saw a pioneer sister. She asked how I was. I told her I did not know. She was visibly nervous but just talked a bit more. I asked her what she was doing because we were upstairs where the computers and tutoring areas are and not down with the books. She told me she was in field service. I went back to the tutoring area (I am taking a math class-bad me in college) but could not concentrate I was so upset. I saw where she was sitting quite a distance away with a woman. I finally went up to her and said that since she asked how I was I wanted to tell her.

  I told her that five b@#$%$#s who pass themselves off as Christians had accused my daughter of fornication for two hours and told her she was a liar, then made her read a scripture that she was filth in God's eyes and would burn in the fire with the devil and his angels,(have not posted my complete story yet) and that they then were willing to get up on the platform and act like they are the epitome of love.

  After fifteen minutes of me "spilling my guts" she wanted to know if I was ever coming back to any Hall. I told her no, and that I was going to tell everyone I could about what these men did at night behind closed doors in secret.

  I told her I did not want to direct any anger at her, but that as dissilutioning as it is to hear, it is the truth and everyone should know the truth about what this organization will allow to happen.

  It was very upsetting. I had to leave. Couldn't study after that.

  Seeing any of them just gets me so mad!!!!!
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  jwfacts

  Thanks Quandry, that is a sad story, but I guess it helps expain the feelings that arise. To leave the WTS is always traumatic, due to bad circumstances like yours, or due to realising that you have lived a life based on lies. Every time we see a JW it brings all those emotions to the surface.
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  JWdaughter

  Quandry, thank you for going up to her and telling her the truth about yourself and the elders. You were wise, you weren't ashamed and you told her the facts. Many who leave act like they deserve their estrangement from old friends and associates. They seem to think the shunning must be participated in by them-the victim. Glad you remembered that you are not the victim that is being told who YOU can speak to. Bravo.
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  Virgochik

  I can't stomach talking to them, I get like a panic attack. I know how overbearing and pushy they can be. I'm afraid, if they had me convinced once (tho briefly!) they might fast talk me again. I just don't want anything to do with them. I'm sure some of the friendly sisters coming up the walk are sincere, but it also brings back the bad memories and the bad dreams.
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  free2beme

  You know, I get on gaurd a bit with some and with others I am laid back and easy going. The only time I get on gaurd, is when they attack me or use extreme off the wall Witness reasoning. I do not avoid them, but at the same time, I do not seek them out. I work with a few and have had run ins, both positive and negative in my time there. Such is life, for the former Witness.
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  misspeaches

  At lunch time I was shopping with a colleague. We were in this store rushing about and this woman was in my way. I went to walk around her and she stepped into my path again. I looked at her properly and it was a JW from my old congregation. Straight away I thought, oh great... I don't want to talk to any JWs today. I got the usual 'we miss you at the meetings' b/s but I don't feel as guilty as I used to. yes I was stressed.
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  Virgochik

  Sure, they miss you at the meetings, misspeaches....and just as surely, if you went back, they'd ignore you!
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  Thegoodgirl

  Wow, good for you Quandry. YOu have more guts than me.

  I actually did get so stressed out the other day when I saw JWs on my street with the tract. My heart started beating fast, and I suddenly felt so angry, I wanted to really yell at them and say "What the hell do you think you're doing preaching about love? You disfellowshipped my sister, ruined her life, pulled away all her support system, and I am spending my day planning how to have the police come and take her to a psychiatric hospital while my JW mom is out in service!!! What kind of love is that?? Jesus said the greatest commandment is love..."

  Yadda yadda yadda. I had the whole thing planned out in my head, and I know I was sweating and short of breath. But the JW lady just walked past me to the next house before I could say anything.

  So yes, I get really stressed out talking to them.
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  zagor

  Not really. My parting with J-Dubs was such a momentous occassion that I reckon most of the are in fear of me these days. I've met some of them on the street and usually they get all jittery and looking for escape, LOL. Couple of weeks ago I saw somebody, they were walking up toward me and couldn't escape so they ran into Pet Shop. And I'm telling you the only pets they've got are dismembered ones from the butchery.