You are right Zagor, the JWs get just as stressed when they see us.
Your situation sounds terrible Thegoodgirl, it is a shame you didn't say something, though it probably would not have made a difference.
Do you get stressed talking to JWs?
by jwfacts 19 Replies latest jw friends
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sass_my_frass
Yeah I get very stressed out anytime a situation like that is approaching, there is so much potential for humiliation. I'm still hoping that it will fade in time, but we'll have to see. The other night I missed my tram stop, and the one past mine passes the kingdom hall. I got out and walked back past it, suddenly realising that all the cars were for that night's meeting, starting in ten minutes. I didn't manage to cross the road in time but kept walking and ended up right in the path of the snobbiest pioneer leech in the state. I ignored them and held my head high. It is kind of comforting to see that the petrified, wide-eyed expressions they were all wearing indicated that it's an equally awkward situation for them. I used to think that I should try to be polite just in case they're quietly on their way out themselves and could use a friend, but it never has paid off.
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Stezza
JW facts you did the right thing. In service industry such as lawyers and accountants you always acknowledge receipt of a file. I bet they would of for one fo the big 6. You have no need to be nervous as the reason you left was a good one. Where was the holy spirit in appointing brothers? I think we have to hold our heads high, I am proud that I am not involved with an organisation that hides child abuse. They may say we are running ahead of the organisation but how when they are in violation of their own society's rules, and behaving in same way that they reproach other religions for that same behavoiur. Anyway are they not meant ot provide everybody with a good witness?
I think the reason they look at us wierd is the following:
A: Our lives have not fallen apart
B: We have bucked what can olny be described as the ultimate in peer pressure.
And I think peer pressure is a good analogy as it as all a bit high School.
I find in situations where I am nervous Bach Rescue Remedy works for me and I suggest you give it a go. You are following your god given conscience the only person you havve to answer to is God. Bach Remedies may have something more specific for confrontation, try at a health food shop.
You will make up those clients do not worry, probably htough with the help of Satan ; )
Digression:Sass-My-Frass now I am really homesick with your talk of trams. We must have people in common. I thought from your screen name you were from dem hills, Sassafras. I will be home for a few weeks soon. Want to meet meet up?
Cheers
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annalice
You know its funny that you bring this up. Just last night my friend and I were talking about this same thing. She posts on this site also. I have been out for eight or nine years now and we were saying how its almost like stages you go through when leaving. For a long time I would get knots in my stomach whenever I ran into a witness but the longer that I've been out the stronger I have gotten. Those people are just that ,PEOPLE. They should not make us feel that way . I now see that they should be nervous of seeing me. I am the stronger one not them ,I can now think for myself ,all I feel now when I see any of them is pity ,for them and their sad little narrow world that they will always live in. They are no different from you or I, they still sit on a toilet and take a crap just like the rest of us. Only for them ,when they do, they see it as a blessing from Jehovah. We just see it as plain CRAP.
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dedpoet
Not at all. Of course, none of them around here speak to me anyway, I'm a very well known opposer to their false worship, and they know it, and there are a couple at work who know my status and only speak to me if they have to, which they rarely do, as we don't work in the same department.
I did get to work with a guy from another office a few weeks ago though, and it was obvious from his conversation that he was a jw. He had no idea of my jw past, and it was fun to ask him about how he was enjoying his time in Nottignham (he was staying in a hotel), with a few suggestions as to how he might make the most of some of the things the city has to offer re nightlife, which didn't interest him, though he wouldn't say why. It took him almost all week, but he finally admitted to being a jw on the next - last day we worked together. I told him I'd guessed earlier, and that I was a da'd dub, and he was pretty shaken, and silent for a while. He did thank me for all my help, though and also for keeping my da status to myself, as it may(?) have made a differrence to his attitude towards me.
We would have had to have spoken anyway, even if he'd known my da status, but I doubt I'd have found it overly stressful, even if he did. After all, I can speak to who I like, it's the jws who can't talk to me.
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Quandry
They are no different from you or I, they still sit on a toilet and take a crap just like the rest of us. Only for them ,when they do, they see it as a blessing from Jehovah. We just see it as plain CRAP.
I just read your reply, annalice, and really did laugh out loud. Yes, they, for all their "holier than thou" attitudes, are as human as the rest of us.
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Kudra
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So did you say all of that in front of the woman that she was studying with? (sounded like you went up to her during a bible study at the library?)
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skyking
Yes
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parakeet
Whenever I visit my JW parents, I have to nerve myself up for it. While I'm there, it's like walking on eggshells. We're all pretty careful to stay off hot topics (holidays, our respective religious beliefs, politics, current events), but once in a while, they'll feel compelled to start asking about what I believe, all the while insisting that they "know" I really still believe it's the "truth." It's an exhausting, stressful process, but I do it as a labor of love because they're old and sick (something they never expected would happen, more's the pity).
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Kudra
Yes, I did go up to both of them. I did not recognize the woman who was with the JW. They were sitting at a computer. I don't know how that qualified as a Bible study. The JW did have her book bag with her. I could see it on the table next to the computer. I did not look at the "study." I figured she would get an earful. Bet they had an interesting discussion after I left. I only hope the woman with her was not "too far gone" to consider what I told the JW.
I came home and told my husband what had transpired. I think we both had indigestion after that.
One thing I do remember telling the JW was that I was not going to keep the WTS' "dirty little secrets." Bet she will now go to the elders and they will be a 'huntin me down.
Bet they will want to ask me a few questions. I will tell them that if they are interested in questions and answers, how about answering my questions that I asked many times--How can these men still be considered examples to the congregation after they crushed the spiritual life and almost the physical life out of my child? Who gave them the authority to tell her she is garbage in God's eyes? Why didn't the great and powerful WTS give them the discipline they deserved? Why didn't they correct the situation?
Oh, no--here comes the indigestion again!!! But thanks for asking.