Dear Respondents,
As one pointed out, there is some reciprocity involved---the "Boomerang Effect". Perhaps "victim" is not the most comprehensive of words because victimization can, and often does, go both ways. The one receiving the "blows", however, can elect to do as many of you clearly have done:
A man's [woman's] discretion makes him [her] slow to anger,
And it is his [her] glory to overlook a transgression.
Proverbs 19:11, NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE, Reference Edition
I have truly benefited from your words, your wisdom borne of pain.
Never again a "victim",
Compound-Complex