I am sooooooo upset

by megsmomma 22 Replies latest jw friends

  • Backed away
    Backed away

    Hi MegsMomma,

    So many of us understand this far to well. I agree 100% with what mrsjones5 said,

    I've made a rule for myself never to talk about the society or anything dealing with religion with my parents. Things have gotten heated and there's just no point to it. So when the subject comes up I just say "let's talk about something else" sometimes that works and sometimes it's doesn't. But since my parents and I aren't talking right now it doesn't really matter anyway

    That word "Apostate!!" is thrown out there as a knee jerk response to anything DIFFERENT heard than what the WBTS teaches. everytime I hear that word it reminds me of how my wife responds when she see's a bug and jumps on the counters.

    My concern originally with joining this board was, we would be no different than any other group who gets together to share identical feelings and thoughts. the real truth is, we all don't get along, recent posts have cemented that, but we do overall respect our differences and rarely do we try and force anyone to see it our way. most when asked about religion don't mind sharing their opinions and how they arrived at them but also try and convey that it will always be one personal choice on how they wish to worship or not. I just wish the witnesses would take of the company hat for a moment and allow others to do the same.

    My experience has been for years, the less said the better. anytime my family brings it up I quickly remind them it's pointless to argue.no one needs to have that pressure and all it ever does it cause deeper and deeper hurt feelings. a conversation should be a two way street but with the witnesses it's them driving the wrong way on a one way street and others are left to try and get out of the way or worse yet if you don't, a accident.

  • megsmomma
    megsmomma

    I guess it is a lesson learned on my part. I am new to this "apostate to the wtbts" thing....and I guess I thought what I found out about them was important to share with the people that have been decieved. I guess I still have the JW mentality in me that requires showing people the falsehoods they believe in. Maybe I too can learn to leave the subject alone with them and let them go on their merry miserable way.

    I think the thing that got me so upset was being told I am an apostate, because I think of how my mom could tell my ex that, and it could result in my daughter veiwing me as bad. I still feel like I HATE THE SOCIETY OF A$S-HOLES!!!

  • Apostate Kate
    Apostate Kate

    Sorry Megs...they are so clueless.

    Yes, Mrs Jones is right. The only way to deal with them is to avoid any and all references to anything important. Keep it simple, shallow. Only open the conversation up to deeper things when you are feeling a bit frisky and in the mood for fireworks and abuse.

    ::sighs::

    {{{{{{{{Megsmomma}}}}}}}}

  • mzliz
    mzliz

    Hi, So sorry. Its impossible to reason with them, I was also told by my brother/sister/ parents that I left them and because of me leaving i caused so much stress in the family. THIS IS THEIR CHOICE!!!! But they are so brainwashed, I'm sorry again. Liz

  • BizzyBee
    BizzyBee
    ..........I HATE THE WATCHTOWER SOCIETY OF AS&HOLES

    Tell us how you really feel..................

  • unique1
    unique1

    Boy you really are having a time. You may want to just stop calling them unless you know they are not home so you can leave a message. Start writing them letters with updates and pics of you and the baby. That way they can't be so mean to you. You already know our families are alot alike in that aspect. I really feel for you.

    Hope your week gets BETTER!!!

  • unique1
    unique1
    My mom constantly is telling people how much she hates my step-dad and if it weren't for Jehovah, she would have left him a long time ago!!

    OH MY GOD my mom says that all the time too. Of course it is about my Dad (no step here) and my dad (apparently unlike yours) is the sweetest man alive. Seriously mislead and stubborn as an ox, but sweet.

    Glad to know I am not the only one.

  • pobthespazz
    pobthespazz

    Sorry to hear that, difficult to give advice when some words will never convey the frustration we go through, when i came out and dipped my toe into the sea of apostasy, I met my sister for lunch and she looked at me and was convinced I was possessed!

  • gordon d
    gordon d

    Hi MM,
    Not to add insult to injury... but why do you keep talking to these people?
    What hurts worse...?
    Not having the relationship with them that you'd like.....
    ...Or, being on the receiving end of that sort of venom?

    I'm sorry they keep hurting you...there's no excuse for that!
    ((((((Megsmomma)))))


    P.S. We'll adopt you, your husband, and Meg.... consider giving us a call, if you need to talk. We can always set a few more places for holiday dinners too.

  • megsmomma
    megsmomma

    I may seem to be asking for trouble this week with my shunning post and then today with my step-dad....but my mom had said I deserved to be stoned,ect. about 6 months ago...which then made me reseach WTBTS teachings, figure it out, then try to get then to listen, which in turn has caused then to say taday that I am apostate. I was just trying to get my step-dad to HEAR a few things I had to say and brought up mom shunning me, so that is what lead up to me getting so upset. (I don't want you all to think I just keep calling them to argue...I am a little thick sometimes, but not completely deranged!)

    Gordon....I would love to meet your family. Mabe we can get together somewhere in between sometime.

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