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megsmomma

Thanks for looking and reading this everyone. The funny thing is the e-mail does make it appear that he is supportive and loving...and all in my family thinks I am angry. However....he lives (For the last 6 mos) about 30 min from me and has only been here twice. He talks of my family like they are all with him on this, yet my sister and brother both think my mom is nuts. My big ranting has only been telling them what I found when I researched the JW's and I was as surprised as anyone that they were a lying cult. (I nievly thought they would be amazed too and see what I saw....WRONG) What can I say, I found it to be a tremendous relief to find out that me, hubby and baby are not facing death at Armegedon in our near future! Call me crazy, but I was happy to get that burden off my shoulder!

There has never been a relationship to "fix" with them....I don't really want to be around them...But, It still makes me mad that they think they are soooo right, and are just waiting for us to DIE!

unique1

one that I have completely procrastinated on for selfish reasons so that I would not have to take a certain stance that I may not always agree with.

To me, this sentance said everything. Tell him, you wish you had procrastinated with your vow as well, because you certainly don't agree with things now. He obviously understands this point of view and should not shun you for it.

At this point, if it were me, I would avoid the religious topic all together. Tell him you want to be a family based on love, not on religion and that you are willing to see them and eat with them, etc. I would tell them, I won't bad mouth your religion while we are together if you don't shove it in my face constantly. We will just avoid the topic all together. Truce?

See what happens then.

Backed away

Mom of Meg,

Was there another page to this response because I'm still waiting to hear his answers to your 4 questions...

megsmomma

I am still waiting for his response too. I just got his e-mail this am, and sent my reply....So, we will see if it come.

I am going to drop the issue with them. I guess I just wish they would see I am not a ignorant mean apostate....and they can't put that on me just because I now know they follow a cult. They can do what they want with their lives, but at least look into why I decieded not to believe it all.

I will post his response if it comes.

fullofdoubtnow

You want to find the right religion for you, have at it…however you need to lay off with your negative rant against the JWs.

But it's ok for jws to be negative about other religions? He is obviously not that familiar with wts publications if he can't see the hypocrisy of that comment.

megsmomma

His response.....Can you see how he answered my questions....and....WTH??? He calls my email a rant?? He is truely clueless, and I will not apologize for hanging up on him, unless he apologizes for calling me an apostate. (yes, childish, but I learned it from the best) The things in paretheses (SP?) I have added myself.

Goodness child, it is evident by your response that you missed the point of my email. ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS ARGUE AGAINST THE JWs. Look at your response, you immediately started your rant. This is what we ,me, your brother and sisters, are tired of.

You want to blame everything wrong in your life on something or somebody else. Unfortunately our society has made it acceptable to blame everybody else and not take responsibility for our own actions. It is time you grew up and accepted responsibility for those decisions you made. I don’t think you should have gotten baptized at such a young age; I don’t think you should have married at such a young age; I don’t think you should have left your husband and child. However those were all decisions you made. I have made twice as many bad decisions in my life ,only because I am twice your age, or feel like anyway, as you, the difference is I accept responsibility for my actions, good, bad or indifferent.

On another note…all the time and effort that all the people who were copied in this email, including you and me, pale in comparison to the time, effort and the exhaustive, comprehensive research your mother has put in over the past 25+ years or so. If you think for one minute that you have the knowledge and wisdom on bible(Society) matters that your mother does, I suggest you take the next 40 hours of your life and study brain surgery and start cutting on people next week. (I am adding GAG ME)

The point to my previous email is that we love you. We want what is good for you and your family. I want you to research, study and find the truth, whatever it may be for you. However we are tired of your negative BS against the JWs. (Although it is fine for the entirety of the BS JW's to be negative towards you) It’s like the whole purpose of every waking moment for you is to find some negative aspect of the Witnesses to blame for your life’s reality.(It's funny, my life's reality is great....it is the affects of the cult that suck) You pull up some apostate web page and believe everything that is written.(I guess the encyclopedia in now apostate...lol) You want to know what the Witnesses believe, study with a Witness.(I am adding...He forgets I have been there....done that)

I look forward to you calling me in the future and saying “dad, the Baptist believe…” or “guess what I learned today about the Lutheran’s perspective on this subject… ”.(Oh, I am sure he is)

By the way, hanging up on me was unacceptable and very disrespectful. I believe I have earned that respect;(By treating you like crap your whole life) and I am talking to all my children here; and I believe you owe me an apology.

I love you very much and only want the best for you.(as long as it doesn't go against what the WTBTS says)

Love

Dad

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unique1

The point to my previous email is that we love you. We want what is good for you and your family. I want you to research, study and find the truth, whatever it may be for you.

At this point, it isn't worth getting your blood pressure up over. I would copy the above and respond in the following:

I have found what works for me. I appreciate the fact that you are cool with that. I am glad that you will not shun me based on my decision. I will agree to not speak badly of the witnesses when I am around you guys. In return I ask that you not try to convert me when I come over or you come over. This includes asking me to have a bible study, inviting me to the meetings, etc. If you can keep from doing that I can keep from saying negative things about them As adults you have to decide what is right for you, even if I do not agree with it, and I respect that, as you respect my decision. Thanks for being open and honest with your feelings, I hope we can put this all behind us.

I wouldn't say any more than that. Ignore all the derogatory comments. You are better than that. Don't give him the mudslinging match he wants. I know what you are up against. I did that with my parents. Unfortunately we all have to find our own way. We can't just drag everyone with us even if it is the only road that makes sense. At least they are attempting to be cool with your choice. Mine parents just shut the door. I hope you can have a religionless relationship with them. Best Wishes!!!

lonelysheep

I love you very much and only want the best for you.(as long as it doesn't go against what the WTBTS says)

Geez!

Unique1--excellent response.

megsmomma

I did take some points from you all on the board in my last response to him....and this is it, no more drama! I promise! The thing is, he really was very verbally abusive to me and my full sister growing up. He demanded respect, never earned it. He talks to me only a few times a year, so he doesn't know me one bit. I am not trying to get along....in fact I really don't care to speak to him or my mom again. Thanks all for the pointers. Your e-mail just shows how well you do not know me. I know you won't respect the research I have done to happily discover me and my wonderful loving family are not going to die at armegeddon. I will stop "ranting" about what the Watchtower teaches when the Watchtower stops ranting on about what other religions teach. I will not "rant" to anyone who doesn't want to talk about it though. Fortunately, I have many friends and family members who appreciate my research and they don't think I am ranting or throwing blame...but then again, they really know me. I have a really happy life...and I spend most of my waking moments playing with a wonderful daughter. Unfortunatley, her g-ma Joy will never really know her, but I know enough now to tell Megan that it is g-ma's chioce. This is the part of the Watchtowers teaching that makes me sad, and the reason I feel like it does affect my life every day. I guess we will have to agree to dis-agree, and just get on with life. Hanging up on you may have been rude, but so is calling me an apostate. I am a believer in all Jesus teaches. I do wish I could have had the chance to do as you did and selfishly not get baptised....but a kid doesn't have any idea what implications that could have.

sass_my_frass

Good reply. They don't deserve us, you know? The heartbreak it costs us to do what we consider our family duty, for people who reject us because we don't believe what they do.... it's a minor tragedy.

I'm starting to accept that every family relationship and friendship I had for the first 30 years of my life was a total sham. If they didn't stick around, they didn't love me in the first place. I'm trying to stop wanting their approval and acceptance. It hurts a lot though.

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