Geeze. I just couldn't resist.
Is Telephone Sex Harmless?
More than that, it promotes a degrading, distorted view of the opposite sex unlike the Old Testament where men offered their virgin daughters to strangers and where one woman was raped until she died. The Bible teaches that sexual intimacies should be enjoyed only within the framework of marriage unless your name is King David. (Hebrews 13:4) But phone sex encourages young ones to experience sexual pleasures outside marriage which is bad....very, very baaaad. The Bible teaches that real happiness comes from giving—not getting which means you should never expect to get any pleasure for yourself while having relations with your mate. (Acts 20:35) But phone sex teaches one to use others as a means for selfish gratification. The Bible teaches married couples to develop true intimacy by cultivating mutual love and trust. (Ephesians 5:22, 33) Telephone sex, however, promotes coldness and anonymity, kinda like the Watchtower Society!!
A Harmful Addiction
For some youths, calling telephone sex lines has become an uncontrollable addiction. One young man we'll call Jim who is a figment of the Writing Department's vivid imagination, demonstrates just how "hooked" some can become. Jim saw the number for a telephone sex line in Ted Jaracz's little black book a billboard advertisement. He memorized the number and later called it out of curiosity. The calls to the line became more and more frequent but he still counted them as a bible study if the word "God" was mentioned. Before long, he had racked up a $600 phone bill which he promptly billed to Brooklyn Bethel.
Stimulating sexual desires while you are still unmarried runs counter to the counsel of God's Word. It urges: "Deaden, therefore, your body members that are upon the earth as respects fornication, uncleanness, sexual appetite."—Colossians 3:5. This council applies to everyone except pedophiles who are free to do what they want as long as they're smart enough not to have two eye witnesses.
The Dangers in Courtship
What about young adults who are engaged in a serious courtship and who have made it to third base without getting caught? Of course, it is only natural for people who are in love to want to express their feelings toward each other. Back in Bible times, one God-fearing young woman said regarding her fianc é : "I am my dear one's, and toward me is his craving." This cost him $4.99 a minute. (Song of Solomon 7:10) As the wedding day approaches, it is right and proper that an engaged couple discuss certain intimate matters. However, is phone sex a safe way to express romantic feelings? Not according to the sexually frustrated old goats in New York.
No. Even engaged couples are obliged to follow the counsel of the apostle Paul: "Let fornication and uncleanness of every sort or greediness not even be mentioned among you, just as it befits holy people; neither shameful conduct nor foolish talking nor obscene jesting, things which are not becoming, but rather the giving of thanks. For you know this, recognizing it for yourselves, that no fornicator or unclean person or greedy person—which means being an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of the Christ and of God."—Ephesians 5:3-5; Colossians 3:8.
Intimate talk that deliberately arouses immoral thoughts or that triggers masturbation is obviously unclean in the Governing Body's Jehovah's eyes. And it could lead to even more serious violations of godly principles. Your beloved might actually french kiss you before the wedding day! One couple, for example, were enjoying a long-distance courtship. At first, they used their frequent telephone conversations as a means of getting to know each other. Before long, however, they began discussing immoral topics. Their conversations became increasingly explicit. It is not surprising, then, that when their circumstances finally allowed them to be together, they quickly fell into unclean behavior.
Surely, we who want to please God will do our utmost to avoid falling into the trap of telephone sex. How can we be successful in doing so? You've got three guesses and the first two don't count.
'Pummel Your Body'
Telephone sex can become addictive. We need to 'pummel our body and lead it as a slave' (isn't that uh, what most do?) in order to meet Jehovah's approval. (1 Corinthians 9:27) If you are currently engaging in telephone sex, why not get some help? Invite your friends to join you, but make sure they've got their credit cards with them, otherwise, you'll have some 'splanin' to do with the telephone bill comes in. Telling your Christian parents would be a good start that will put you on the road to Nowheresville, unless your parents are also addicted. Yes, they may well be upset with you. But they may also be in the best position to help monitor your behavior so that you don't have a relapse. The elders in your local congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses will also be (more than) willing and able to help out but they'll be expecting at least an hour on the phone themselves while billing the call to you.
If you are courting, be determined to remain chaste, even when talking on the phone. An engaged Christian woman named Leticia who lives in Zimbawee and has no idea what telephone sex even is says: "My fianc é and I have read together Bible-based articles on staying chaste. We appreciate the way they have helped us maintain a clean conscience." Have the courage to change the topic if your talk becomes suggestive. Consult together about the need to keep your conversations clean.
In some lands, advertisements for telephone sex are featured on television late at night. Perhaps it would be best for you simply to avoid watching late-night TV by getting into your jammy-jams right after supper and be in bed by 7:00 pm. Since masturbation will similarly arouse, rather than deaden, immoral thoughts, it is vital that you avoid this unclean practice. After all, it's a scientific fact that if you masturbate, you'll go blind. You can successfully expel unclean thoughts from your mind by dwelling on upright things. Surround yourself with friends who use wholesome speech, and read God's Word. In other words, anyone expect Jehovah's Witnesses. Put pictures of Marty Feldman or Phyllis Diller on your bedroom ceiling. In this way you will not allow room for immoral fantasies to creep in and corrupt your thinking. Most important, pray to God for help in escaping this ever increasing insane religion.
