My First Shunning ... (page 2)

Narkissos

I do remember the first shunning too (it's traumatic even though you perfectly know it will happen).

The day after I was "finally" disfellowshipped (appeal committee) I was moving from the flat I had been subrenting (as a pioneer) from a couple of JWs. When getting out from the building with a few packs on my hands I stumbled across one of my closest friends with an elder on FS. Both looked "through" me as another poster put it. It was a physical shock. I made a few steps toward my car and had to lean on the square barrier to breathe...

Stupid as it may seem, I loved these people.

Apostate Kate

Stupid as it may seem, I loved these people.

Not stupid at all, it is the kind hearted ones who hurt the most in all this insanity.

moshe

If I ran into some of the old JW gang, I'm sure they would snub me- But they would be hanging their head in shame at the same time- Because 18 years later they can see what I told them came true. No more 1914 generation, the original anointed remnant group is dead and Armageddon is still just around the corner. Of course a reasonable person would face the facts and get out of the JW fairyland, but most of them have just dig in deeper with a state of blind denial.

LongHairGal

If this is a "control" tactic it sure doesn't work on me.

I'm not even out and I have been "shunned" by certain people. In fact, it is by a certain family of an elder. Several years back I noticed it and IGNORED it. I have a feeling that this bothered certain people more. As far as I am concerned, let them shun away to their hearts content.

LHG

RR

While I was never DF'd or formally DA'd myself. My brothers wife and her family shunned me after I be became inactive and affiliated myself with the Bible Students.

Funny thing is, as I told my brother, what right have they have to judge me before the Society even has? I later confronted them.

My sister-in-law who walked down the aisle pregnant after living with my brother for six months. Her sister who I believe was attempting to start her own United Nations, by having five kids out of wedlock, by five different men and nationalities. A regulat rainbow coalition. Her younger sister who actually did porno. Her two brothers, one who married a pioneer sister because he got her pregnant, and the other who caught herpes, hmmmm I wonder how?

RR

tetrapod.sapien

My sister-in-law who walked down the aisle pregnant after living with my brother for six months. Her sister who I believe was attempting to start her own United Nations, by having five kids out of wedlock, by five different men and nationalities. A regulat rainbow coalition. Her younger sister who actually did porno. Her two brothers, one who married a pioneer sister because he got her pregnant, and the other who caught herpes, hmmmm I wonder how?

ROFLMAO!! ahh,

Country Girl

While I was never DF'd or formally DA'd myself. My brothers wife and her family shunned me after I be became inactive and affiliated myself with the Bible Students.

Funny thing is, as I told my brother, what right have they have to judge me before the Society even has? I later confronted them.

My sister-in-law who walked down the aisle pregnant after living with my brother for six months. Her sister who I believe was attempting to start her own United Nations, by having five kids out of wedlock, by five different men and nationalities. A regulat rainbow coalition. Her younger sister who actually did porno. Her two brothers, one who married a pioneer sister because he got her pregnant, and the other who caught herpes, hmmmm I wonder how?

RR

So what happened when you confronted them?

CG

undercover

I'm not DF'd/DA'd just a (so far) successfull fader. But since I have so much family still in, I still have contact with a lot of JWs.

I was invited to a JW ~~party~~ get-together a few weeks ago and was shunned by some guy I didn't even know. The JWs in attendance that I had known for years were actually pretty decent and we had a good time, but this one 'brother', who apparently had moved into the territory since my departure from regular meeting attendance completely ignored me. When I tried to introduce myself, he acted like he didn't see or hear me. He looked right through me as if I wasn't there. When I walked up to a group, if he was there he walked away. If I was brought into a conversation, he excused himself. It was obvious that he had no intention of acknowledging my presence or interacting with me.

I've never met this guy...never seen him before. He doesn't know me. And if he should know who I am, that doesn't mean that he knows anything about me. To shun me based on what little he heard about me from third parties is pretty judgemental.

But it wasn't my first shunning...to be honest, I don't remember the first one. I was shunned enough by both JWs and non-JWs growing up that I've become kind of oblivious to all but the most obvious of attempts.

reneeisorym

My dad was the first to shun me. I passed him on the road right before his house and I waved real big. He ignorned me and I thought I wasn't going to be able to breath. Then ... My mom (who just can't bring herself to completely shun me -- she emails me once a month or so) told me later that Dad went home and cried.

Speaking of all this. I remember when I was a kid and my grandfather was DFed. I was at his house with my grandmother and he walked in the door and I all but ran out the door ... it scared me to death like he was a boogie man. I can't believe I would ever do something like that. Then I got to see him shun me right after they announced it ... strange how things work out.

Finally-Free

I like being shunned by the JWs. I'm finally enjoying a measure of peace and quiet in my life. No one calls to criticize me or ask me for money or other favours. No more calls for free computer help, or to ask me to help them move. No more pioneers™ thinking they can drop in any time for a free meal. No more elders phoning me 5 minutes before the field service™ arrangement asking me to take the group at the last minute.

W

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