How do you stop acting like a psycopath ?

5go

I find myself just going off way to easy recently, and I find that I'm going into my shell a lot. I was just wondering how you guys have dealt with it if you have ?

You need to find some way to relax.. lol, I know, I know.. it's not that simple! Just realising that you are off kilter is the first step.. when you feel your blood pressure rising.. steam building.. however you want to put it.. make yourself stop and ask "why am I so mad"

The last year or so at my job I was having this problem.. and I eventually realised that the fact was I wasn't feeling more anger than usual, I had just finally learned to quit holding it in all the time.. unfortunatly this created some tension at work Finding ways to release the pressure without blowing up at someone is the key.. but you have to find your own answer for that.. everyone is different. Exercise works for some (not me) Yard work is good (not for me) Sex is the best (works for me ) but not always convienient. A hobby that you really enjoy.. I like to put my favorite tunes on and bake.. I'm always more relaxed when I'm done, but I tend to gain weight during stressful periods if I rely on this A glass of wine can be a good relaxant.. but not something you really want ot depend on...

Give yourself a day off, if you can, and only do the things that are relaxing to you. Might ease the pressure for a day or two. Go to bed before 2 am so you are not tired the next day.. oh, wait.. that's me.. goodnight!!! (sorry if none of this makes sense, I'm way tired, it's past my bedtime!)

Misty

DannyHaszard

You are not a psychopath my friend your are having temporary mental distress

Best regards~Danny

rebel8

AA sayings: "Act as if." "Fake it 'till you make it."

Translation: Act as though you're the person you want to be; the feelings/confidence will follow.

The structure thing does really help most people develop friendships, and having lost a structure (your religion), maybe replacing it with a different structure is the way to go for now. Join a club or whatever, particularly one centered around an activity rather than awkward mingling with strangers.

Junction-Guy

A psychopath?? At least you arent a Jinx, you ought to read my previous topic.

PrimateDave

I remember reading (I can never remember where!?!) that often men express their feelings of depression through aggression. Minor depression is not serious and can often be helped by moderate exercise. Just acknowledge your feelings and be aware of them. If you feel depressed for an extended period of time, it may be necessary to get medical attention. Just some thoughts.

Dave

Swamboozled

You are not a psychopath my friend your are having temporary mental distress
Best regards~Danny

Bingo! You may need something like Wellbutron to get you over the hump. I know that we are an overmedicated society, but leaving the borg is such a stressful life-changing event, you may need a little help. Good luck to you. Swam

becca1

Depends on how far "off" you are going. The fact that you realize something is up is a good thing. Please find someone trustworty to confide your feelings in and maybe seek some professional help as well.

Scully

Vent here as much as you need to. Go to the gym and beat the crap out of a punching bag. Put Rutherford's or Jaracz's picture on the punching bag if it helps. Try to remember that JWs, for the most part, are misguided people and doing what they have been taught to believe is the right thing to do... they are victims too, even though they can inflict great pain on us.

You may need professional help - try to get a referral to a counsellor who is familiar with cult-exit issues.

Keep telling yourself that you're free now. Freedom always comes with a price.... the anger is part of what you pay in exchange for your freedom. Your anger is justified - but try to re-direct your anger into something constructive and positive.

You aren't alone. It does get better. Hang in there. We are all here for you.

BrentR

I had to leave the JW's to keep from becomming one. Give yourself some time to adjust and use every moment to relish your new found mental freedom. Create your day now that it is no longer being consumed by meetings, door banging, book study etc,etc.

Getting involved in a social type hobby or passtime and you will have an mental outlet and a chance to meet non JW's and strike up many friendships. Real honest friendships that are not conditional and plastic. All of my friends now came from after I was twenty when I left. I found out the "friends" I had since I was a kid really wern't friends at all. That realization took several years to sink in with me completely. I am still grappling with it and probably always will.

It only gets better from here! The best thing I ever did for my mental and emotional wellbeing is to GET THE HELL OUT!! I have no regrets or remorse for doing so. I will never forget my first birthday party at the age of 21!!!