Why does it take so long for lurkers to join ?

moomanchu

How long did you lurk before joining ?and why?

It took me about a year before joining and posting.

I can sum up my reason in one word,

FEAR

Good job Watchtower.

Moo

I discovered and started looking at the site in 2003 but only looked in once every couple of months. I really didn't think I had any reason to join or contribute, but as Christmas 2005 approached I suddenly felt like joining "the congregation". I left the Borg years ago and had done all my healing on my own, but in spite of this I'm glad I joined as I feel part of a movement which exposes the WTS and guides people out of or away from this nasty cult.

Clam

Ironhead

You got that one right, FEAR! Fear of my dub wife. The argument we had when she caught me reading the post.

johnny cip

just learning about the wt and reading is enough for many. and remember this is not the only forum around . i researched the wt for 5 years before ever coming to this site. and did 2 years on the internet before finding this place. and i still read much more than i post. READING IS FUNDAMENTIAL. JOHN

bubble

I lurked for a year or so before posting. My hubby, South African Beef started posting before me but I was afraid that jws that knew me would read my posts and suss out who I was. So at first I didn't put down how old I was or where I was from, and god forbid I never mentioned my real name.

But now I've lost the fear I've disclosed everything and I don't really care who reads it as I have no intentions of ever returning to the cult.

serendipity

I lurked for a year too. There was a bit of fear, but I was not sure I wanted to participate in the bitterness and irreverence I saw here at that time - 2 years ago. The situation improved enough so that I decided to join.

blondie

Fear that the evil apostates will take over your mind. Then you find out that the "evil apostates" are making a lot of sense.

Lack of knowledge of how a computer works and thinking that somehow the elders are outside on the street and can zoom into what you are typing on the computer.

Blondie

Seeker4

I'm not sure how long I lurked before joining the old H2O. Before I had a computer, I would lurk at the library.

I think part of holding back is that, once you make the decision to post, you've really stepped into the apostate world in a very formal way. It's sort of like the apostate's baptism!

S4

sspo

Fear and the feeling of a traitor especially if you are still attending the meetings.

J-ex-W

I wasn't a lurker so much as a periodic peeker at other sites, fewer than a handful of times, before just recently delving into this one. An apostate I know (who I learned last summer was apostate) told me about this one after I initiated contact a few weeks ago. I didn't like the other sites, because what I saw there was mostly doctrinal quibbling, and that's not where I'm at. Or, born-again claims, "I thought I had the truth, and now I REALLY have the truth!" Again, not where I'm at. This one fits more, somehow.

But fear, shame, self-doubt, paranoia, and still some residual deep-rooted beliefs that there is a definite WRONG WAY sign posted on the Apostate road. Now, I'm actually starting to--at least internally--embrace that title. Feels good, but I still know the s--- is going to hit the fan with family when I finally go public with all aspects. But it has to be done. Sitting on these truths is just too wrong.

Thanks, JWD, for providing this new network. I probably still wouldn't be progressing as much as I have done in just the last few weeks if your site, in particular, didn't exist. And thanks, friend--you know who you are--for introducing me.

Why does it take so long for lurkers to join ?

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