Thumbnail Details: Lifelong JW and former elder with 30 family members in. Came to realize it wasn't The Truth at age 38, just over two years ago. Have been fading with my 19 year old daughter, making two, major, long-distance moves. Finally told my mother my position regarding the WTS this past March. At first she said she wouldn't tell anyone, but I discovered she told everyone, including siblings and local elders who began knocking on our door. No communication since then.
Development: My ex-wife (who has also left the organization and with whom I have a good relationship) has been receiving voice messages from Mom. My non-JW aunt has been trying to send me her annual gift of Florida oranges, and Mom wanted my address to give her. Ex-wife avoided conversation until yesterday.
My mom kept pressuring my ex to tell her where my daughter and I lived, so she finally told her we moved to Arizona. Mom kept asking questions like this over and over...
"What if something happens to me or his dad? How will anyone contact him?"
"I'm 73 years old and Dad's 74. Something will happen to us sooner or later; how will he know?!"
To which my ex replied (exactly as I wanted her to): "Well how about calling him? His cell number is the same it's been for years. Just call him right up."
"Well I can't just call him. He's turned apostate!"
My ex (who has not attended meetings in years--but who has, apparently, not admitted her disapproval of the WTS) decided to express herself more forcefully than she has previously. She told her emphatically that I was her son, and anything that kept her from having a relationship with me was wrong. She insisted that she would NEVER cut our daughter off under ANY circumstances.
I'm told Mom became somewhat acquiescent after that.
I knew my family must have concluded this, but it's now confirmed: "He's turned apostate!"