by coolcat 38 Replies latest jw experiences
Thx again to everyone.. I was cautious of course but am very glad I decided to register.
Alwayshere, thank you as well . I have thought long and hard about what I can do and I think exactly what you said is what I'm going to do.. I have an aunt and cousins who fell away and do all sorts of things that could be a DFshpg offense but aren't. I just see myself being able to do that way before I could write a disassocation letter or something like that
"mouthy" has a phone number for people wanting to exit, and for people out who need a shoulder
i have it at work, but i am sure you could leave her a pm for it..she is wonderful
orbi
"mouthy" is the resident grandma on the board, coolcat. She's tremendous!
bebu
Thank you orbi.. I will def drop her a line.. I appreciate it :)
Welcome. It's going to be terrible for a while but that will fade, and you'll be a lot better.
'oh your parents will be upset at first but they will come around' and you and I both know that isn't true..
You are responsible only for your happiness. They are responsible for theirs. They won't ever be happy about your choices but eventually that actually will accept them, realise that this is for life and if they want a child they'll have to play it your way. That's the good thing about growing up; we get to live our own life.
Your parents have had their time and made their choices. Now it's your turn. Don't sacrifice any more of your precious time to spare their feelings.
Take a deep breath..... >>>>>>exhale>>>>>> ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
pat yourself on the back
get some coffee and relaxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx ....
give yourself all of the time you need....
we're here for YOU
you'll figure it out
Thx Sass.. my best friend Alicia actually has been such a help to me. She too was raised in a strict religion called Church of God and when we met and started talking and we both realized that we were both told "This is the only true religion and the only safety is here and not out in the world - she even called me a worldly person if you can believe that! well you can imagine our surprise but she said something to me one day that impressed so much on me and goes along with what you were saying she said "Some day when you are old and gray and rocking in a chair on a porch somewhere you aren't going to have your parents, sisters, maybe not even friends. .you'll just have your memories and you make your memories" and that statement alone is why I know that I have to do this..
Well I need to be getting to bed .. thank you everyone again for your hugs, kind words, and encouragement.. I really needed it. I will definitely come back again... Night all
Hey friend, You said: "in my heart I just want to be free." I say in your heart you're already free, even if it's just a little beginning. It takes time of course, and rather than one hotline to call you've tapped into a whole lot of people with a forum like this. In time it can change a LOT. All I can tell you is whereas before I was afraid of how running into JW's might make me feel, now it's more like I'm afraid of how I might make them feel. Unlike Witnesses I don't push though, so on those rare occasions where someone runs into me I'm just kind of casual about it - funny they never get around to actually talking about "the truth."
Welcome coolcat.
Not to worry. You haven't left the real truth, you can't, you are only leaving a morbid belief system. The truth is what IS; what is real and ever present as the foundational essence of your own being, and that of all life and existence.
Follow your inner wisdom and be true to it. It is not your duty in life to live a lie that others may continue their fantasy and not be "hurt". The very best thing you can do for those you love is be honest and true to yourself first. Then, perhaps those who are not totally engulfed within a coma, may be warmed by your integrity and example.
So very glad you joined us.
j
