Dearest DanB... may you have peace!
Dear one, contrary to what the WTBTS and religion IN GENERAL have taught, it was neither the sin of pride nor 'universal sovreignty' that intially was the issue. First, what pride? Eve saw something she wanted is all. She gave in to the 'desire of the eyes', which originates with this world. So what? Who didn't/doesn't at some point another, other than my Lord? And my Father's universal sovreignty was NEVER an issue. If it were, why then would even Satan have 'come and taken his station' before him? No, Satan knew who was 'boss', as did Adam and Eve. As does ALL in the spirit realm, regardless of what we know here.
What the ISSUE was, was NOT that my Father told Adam and Eve, "don't eat from that tree because if you do I am going to kill you...". No, He said, "do not eat from it for in the day that you do... you WILL die!" It wasn't a RESTRICTION... it was a WARNING!
How so? Because it was the tree of the knowledge... of 'bad'. And the ONLY thing that was 'bad'... was DEATH. It was the tree that lead to KNOWING... Death! And my Father WARNED them, that if they ate, they WOULD know 'bad'... they would KNOW Death! And indeed, that is exactly who... and what... they came to 'know'.
Satan enticed Eve by appealing to a desire that was already there: he had seen her looking at the tree; he simply exploited that desire by adding to her uncertainty that she could 'know' something that even God knew... and perhaps be 'like' God. And yes, God... and ALL spirit creatures... 'knew' Death. For he is one of them. It is flesh with its blood that had not yet made acquaintance with Death.
And so Eve... was deceived. She had no concept of what... or rather, WHO... she was getting herself into 'knowing'. But Adam knew FULL well what... or rather WHO... it was he would 'know'. For unlike Eve, who was made from Adam, Adam... was made in GOD'S 'image'. He, too, possessed 'spirit'. THus, up until that time, although Adam knew OF death... Adam 'knew'... only LIFE. He KNEW my Father... and he KNEW my Lord (John 14:6). He 'knew' them... and was known BY them... in that they were 'in union'. ONE SPIRIT. Just as man who comes to 'know' a woman, becomes ONE flesh.
Adam, however, wanted to KNOW 'bad'... KNOW Death... and be 'in union' with Death. And he got what exactly what he sought. My Father simply tried to WARN him... not 'restrict' him. And Adam... failed to heed the warning. And even after he ate, he STILL could have saved himself... AND Eve... by simply stepping up to plate, ACKNOWLEDGING what he did... and ASKING for forgiveness. My Father's heart is LARGE... and He WOULD have forgiven Adam. For He LOVED Adam.
Instead, Adam chose to HIDE his error rather than confess it... then he BLAMED everyone else... the woman AND God... for doing what he himself CHOSE to do! He did not take responsibility for his sin; he did not 'own' it, confess it... and ask to be forgiven for it. Thus, he RECEIVED no forgiveness for it. THAT is where 'pride' came into the picture... and pure disobedience. His pride... prevented him from HUMBLING himself... and CONFESSING... and ASKING for forgiveness. So, while his choice caused his 'fall'... his pride kept him down.
Giving into the pull of the flesh is not in and of itself disobedience. That is why Paul SAID, "When I want to do what is right, what is bad is present in me... then it is no longer I, but the sin that is IN me that is working it out." But failing to RECOGNIZE, ADMIT, ACKNOWLEDGE, CONFESS and ASK FORGIVENESS for what our flesh does and has us do... is disobedience. Why? Because we have been TOLD... as Adam and Eve were most probably told... that ALL we have to DO... is those things... and we can and WILL be forgiven. King David knew this and acted appropriately when his error was revealed by Nathan. Moses knew it and acted appropriately when HIS error was revealed. Paul knew it; Peter knew it. Many... knew it and acted appropriately. They HUMBLED themselves... BEGGED forgiveness... and received it. And the provision is still true today.
Thus, if we are NOT forgiven, as were not Adam and Eve... it is because we do not WANT to be. We would rather stand fast in our pride and disobedience... and 'take our licks'... rather than humble ourselves before the mighty hand of God. And in such case, then, we CHOOSE Death... rather than CHOOSE... Life. And Life is as close within our grip... as is Death. From Adam on, however... the 'choice'... as to who we 'grope' for... has ALWAYS been ours.
I hope this helps, Dan B. And I wish you the greatest of peace.
A servant to the Household of God, Israel, and a slave of Christ,
SJ