What really made you exit the Jw's

by KAYTEE 42 Replies latest jw friends

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  KAYTEE

  I know it’s a question that has been asked a thousand times, but what really made you exit the Jw’s .

  For instance, my wife and I, having found out about the U.N., 607bce, failed prophecies etc. gave all this information to my wife’s brother, along with many so called friends. We came out but the brother and friends stayed in.

  The only reasoning I can put on it, is that we made an EFFORT to find out for ourselves what was the real truth, the others were told and given written evidence - but still didn’t make a decision.

  Could that be why some come out and others stay in?

  KT
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  avidbiblereader

  I actually began reading just the Bible about 1 1/2 years before I left and started to see the Bible as different than the mags and books were talking about and then my ex left me because I was spiritually endangering her with Bible based thoughts and explanations and I moved on and was Df'd about 8 months later for moving on with my life with my new wife and family.

  abr
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  some-xjw-guy

  In a word, growth. It may not be evident at first, but my guess is with a lot of people the process starts when they start to outgrow the average JW mentally and emotionally - even spiritually. The same stagnant crap just does not work anymore.
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  parakeet

  The blood issue. When my son was born, I knew with conviction the JWs were wrong and that there was no way in hell I was ever going to give up my life or the life of anyone in my family for such a bloodless (pun intended), inhumane "policy." I knew then the JWs were wrong in every sense of the word.
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  Fleshybirdfodder

  My wife and I found the whole charade too exhausting, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I was tired of censoring my intellectual curiosity, I was tired of being dishonest about things I really didn't believe in (shunning, homophobia, monthly reports etc...). I was tired of having my wife have to defend me all the time in service because I didn't go out enough even though I was working full time to support her pioneering. The breaking point came when our relationship was threatened by this demanding cult. A couple days into her pioneer school my wife and I broke down in tears and for the first time in three years were actually honest with eachother. We both said, "I don't want to do this anymore." Thus began the fade. Since that night we have been closer than ever.

  FBF
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  avidbiblereader

  FBF, that is an excellent post, thanks for sharing and well put.

  abr
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  done4good

  (Abridged version)

  After some experiences with the elder body, that left me really sensing, (knowing in a deep place), that in no way was there any holy spirit directing the steps of either the congregation, or the organization as a whole. Too much dishonesty and politicing. This eventually kept me from going to meetings, and only after several months of not attending, did I consider actually doing research on the organization. 607, in particular, was the real doctrinal clincher, as I already believed there was enough wrong with the organization, even without knowing of the UN/NGO issue, child abuse cases, etc, to prove it wasn't the truth.

  j
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  Spectre

  I was going to kill myself from loneliness, boredom of life and the boredom of the repetition of the meetings. I went to every meeting from when I was 5 up til I was 26 and after that long with nothing ever happening, I had to get out. At the time I was thinking that it was the "truth" but I was conflicted in that it really wasn't for everyone. There are different types of people all being put into the same cookie cutter mold and I couldn't take it anymore.
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  Seeker4

  I had outgrown the organization and its narrow world view. When the 1914 generation change came, I could totally see this as a cynical move to cover the WTS' ass. I'd stopped believing in the Organization by that time. I then started reading the Bible for what it really said, without the WTS filter on. By Genesis 22 I no longer had any faith in the Bible.

  I was outa there!

  S4
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  Alwayshere

  My Son is the reason I left. He quit going to the meetings and finally his wife also. they had a 3 year old and I wanted them back in so when he told me he had a problem with 1914, I was going to prove to him the Society was right. I done a LOT of research and found out the Society was wrong. I couln't believe it at first and didn't want to since I had other kids in it. But decided to go with the truth and got out. My son and his wife were labeled Apostates. They haven't done anything with me so far except come out to talk and that has been about 3 years. My other kids still speak and are nice to me so thats the only thing good about not being DF. They will not speak to their brother but he and his wife are enjoying life now. All of my daughter-in-law's folks dropped them. Her Dad and brother are Elders. She lost all her family. It was hard at first but she has made real friends now but I know she misses her Mother.