Other then the fact you didn't really answer the question.......
The problem is that others are speaking for God and misrepresenting Him
Yep and he is allowing it. Therefore, he is partially responsible. It is being done in his name, he allows it, therefore, he is partially responsible.
Even if God does declare to do something, He has that right, He owns everything and He can undo any harm that takes place. Who are we to question His hand?
Prove it. When someone can prove to me, when someone can show me evidence that some God owns all of this and has the right to do this, I will consider worshipping him. That's number one. The number two part to this is, just because a parent is a parent, does Not give them the right to allow their children to be tortured in their name. Where I'm from, someone would remove that parents rights so fast it would make their head spin. Just because God created all this (maybe) doesn't give him the right to be inhumane. In fact, before any rights this God might have, comes responsibility, and he has the responsibility of taking care of his children. Once he has done that, then he can claim rights.
You have the right to believe what you want to believe, my belief at this point is, yes he is responsible. If calls himself our Father, then he should start being a father and start taking care of his kids.