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Sola,
I have to answer no, but it is not out of meanness or spite.
If the only measure of "love among yourselves" was whether or not they engaged in military service, my answer would be different. As it is, I must honestly evaluate how they treat one another.
(1) Single parents or people without children are frequently not included in purely social gatherings that are arranged. When my wife and I decided to reach out to these folks we heard repeated thanks and gratitude for the interest ... they had been starved for attention and affection. Love is not at the meetings only is it?
(2) For some reason, they have a disciplinary/counsel system that is more draconian than the one employed by the Pharisees. You may not agree, at first, but they have private confidential trials that the accused cannot have witnessed or recorded even if he or she desires to. This is well beyond even the travesty of the nighttime trial of Jesus. It allows decisions to be made that cannot fairly be appealed, the appeal is entirely based on whatever notes the elders made and on their inarguably partial recollections versus the victim of the unscriptural trial.
As a result of the private nature and unlike Hymenaeus, Philetus, Nicolaus, etc. we have no idea why anyone is no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses. Therefore, the vast majority of "brothers" and "sisters" who reject one who is announced as no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses have no idea whether or not the person really did anything that merited the punishment.
I cannot find any means by which I can label the shammata (expulsion from the synagogue) as they practice it an act of love. It is an act of hatred. It is divisive of families, a trait Jesus said those who weren't his would be characterized by.
There are other signs of a deep and active lack of love, like imposing upon sheeplike ones burdens that the Bible does not require. How do you demonstrate love by accepting and encouraging others to accept heavier burdens than Jesus gave?
Maybe you thought it was a demonstration of love of Jesus to labor under a burden greater than the one he gave? That is fine if you personally decide that. But nothing in the Bible allows you or the Governing Body or the papacy or any other entity to create a heavier burden for others, does it?
It is not loving to do so. However, this particular demonstration of a lack of love probably is the most significant characterization of Jehovah's Witnesses. Most people don't know JWs because of what they believe, they know JWs because of what they reject. Not because of what they do, but because of what they are not allowed to do.
Galatians is a book I encourage you to read carefully. Galatians 1:6-9 and Galatians 6:1-7 pretty well sums up my last point. They do not demonstrate love (actively demonstrating their love for one another), they try to refrain from demonstrating hate/lack of love (avoiding war). That is not at all the same thing. It is all about the outward show. I never really felt like the congregations I was in loved me. I doubt you believe genuine love for brother and sister is the dominant quality of the organization.
Respectfully,
AuldSoul