Hi Messy and welcome to JWD. We look forward to hearing lots more from you.
penny2
anyone else out there land on a psych ward after being df'd???
by Messy 47 Replies latest jw experiences
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JWdaughter
I sure want to write a book! I have gotten mental health counseling on the subject. Talking about it finally ended my concentration camp nightmares (aren't those meetings wonderful? I was 9 when nothing happened in 1975. I fully expected PLENTY to happen-and soon!)
Write the book, and put down everything you need to now, while it is fresh and raw. Later you can shape it, but now you can be passionate and get it down. It will be therapeutic-I guarantee it.
WELCOME TO THE FORUM!!! You are going to do just fine!
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bigmouth
Hi Messy, thanks for posting! I'm not DF'd yet but a long time fader.
Spent many episodes in psych. wards over the last 9 years. My depressive and panicky episodes are less intense now and further apart. I'm now able to assist others in the mental health field.
The weight of guilt and misery was miraculously lifted about 18 months ago when I first told my psychiatrist of my being involved with the dubs. It co-incided with posting on here. My therapist was immediately able to tailor her help toward me more specifically. Lo and behold she had had a number of other Witness clients.
Glad you've got a great hubby!
All the best,
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jwfacts
Welcome Messy.
A close friend ended up in a psych ward prior to being d/f. He did not understand what was happening, but it was directly related to him loosing his faith in the WTS. The psychiatrists did not understand either that he was coming out of a cult and so were unable to help. After he got out and worked out what the issues were (the WTS being the issue) he was d/f. He certainly is not insane and is getting on with his life now far happier to be free. Unfortuanately his mother has written him off as insane, and refuses to accept that he is normal, preferring to think the only reason he left the JWs was because of mental problems.
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tijkmo
yes i ended up on suicide watch..
this was before my df-ing had been announced
the jc said i was faking it to avoid punishment...how could they know that...they never visited me
2 other elders in the hall did visit and assured them that there was no way i was faking it.
1 of them told them in no uncertain terms that i was being treated unfairly unjustly unlovingly and unscripturely
so they removed him as an elder
fuckers
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Madame Quixote
Messy Jessy,
I heard a quote this morning that made me think of this. I am very sorry to hear the story of your brother; I feel lucky that I too was not one of those lost to suicide (yet). The devastation of dysfunctional family coupled with asocial religion is tremendous. I think your brother's journals deserve publication. His story is not the only one like it, I am sure; not everyone in his situation keeps journals like that which stay intact.
Now, for the quote, from Virgil Suarez:
" . . . I wrote . . .to remember . . . The life of an exile is chaos."
Listen to this, if you have time; I enjoy listening to this- the Writer's Almanac - most days:
http://www.publicradio.org/tools/media/player/almanac/2007/01/29_wa.ram
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Paisley
tijkmo
yes i ended up on suicide watch..
this was before my df-ing had been announced
the jc said i was faking it to avoid punishment...how could they know that...they never visited me
2 other elders in the hall did visit and assured them that there was no way i was faking it.
1 of them told them in no uncertain terms that i was being treated unfairly unjustly unlovingly and unscripturely
so they removed him as an elder
fuckers
Unbelievable, anywhere else but a cult, that is. I'm so sorry.
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Bonnie_Clyde
I'm beginning to think that as time goes on, more and more witnesses are going to go off the deep end. I've been told that in one nearby congregation nearly every elder's wife is on some sort of stress medication.
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Messy
Hi again...this venting is so good for me...i love it...my husband's pretty psyched too and hes not a jw!
pretty much every jw teenager i know including myself was on anti-depressants at some point, abused alcohol, and were 'cutters' ( people who self-mutilate). i did it regularly for 2 years with my 'best'' friend at the time. its funny, no one ever, not mom dad or anyone ever thought the elders needed to know about us doing it, probably because it wasn't in awake yet or they were afraid of getting in trouble for not taking better care of us and was ashamed. i think alcohol abuse is pretty rampant. it might just be the kids in my hall, and the other halls in my hometown, and alll of my dads 'good associates' and my step mom who drinks right along side my dad while telling him hes an alcoholic. my little sister started at the drink pretty young, but then again she also started secretly dating my best friend online for 7 years behind our backs when she was 11 and he was 19.(okay so maybe ALOT of jws have drinking problems)...but now wait a minute...... how come he wasnt dfd??? he was reproved before for marijuana and other drugs along with 6 other boys before they found out he diddled my little baby sister! (well i dont know for sure but thats what you do when intercourse is forbidden, am i right?).!!!! well theyre married now, and the place where i used to get drunk is now my sisters messy drunken house. theyve been married for a year since jan 1st and she wont be 19 until may while hes turning 27 the same month. sorry. someone got me started...
MORE TO COME!!!!!!!!!
sister messy jessy
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Messy
OH YA AND! my sister is brilliant and beautiful and she wanted to go to university.. she won awards for public speaking (which my dad said was thanks to the theocrappy misery school (too much?;) she could have become something great! and do you know what she decided to do? first it was, no university will take too long, and the end is nigh....ill go to college....then it was.....well, my 300 year old boyfriend s parents DO own a business.....you guess it! JANITORIAL!!!!! now she runs the business for him . he has a grade 7 education, although very smart, because his parents didnt want him in school with other kids and were supposed to home school him..but he just went door to door with mom everyday and worked in the business at night. my guess is grade 7 was when the marijuana problems started>??anyways. the point is this beautiful girl married the same guy she was crushing on at 11 years old. shes only turning 19 and is married to an older guy who plays video games and drinks and watched movies on his wall length flat screen and connects with 11 year olds!!! if shes anything like me shes going to get BORED!!! if i had married the jw guy i was in love with when i was 15 i would be miserable today. mainly because all he was was a hot italian brother who liked my 'eyes' (....lower.....) listened to punk rock, liked to make out ....and his interests recently i read online were 'chicks cars and bass guitars' or something similarly lame ass. thank JEHOVAH AND OR JESUS i didnt marry him right after highschool WHAT THE ^%@#$ was i THINKING!!!!????!!!! hes a whole nother chapter! (WOW ITS SO HARD TO STOP TYPING!!!! I HOPE NOBODYS GETTING BORED)
jessy