Plan for happiness that ended up being a trap...

by FlyingHighNow 14 Replies latest jw friends

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Edited to change thread title:

    So many people, mostly teenagers, but even adults, especially JW's, experience something similar to this song by Tracy Chapman. JW's are like naive teenagers in thinking marriage will be a cure all for their depression and loneliness. There are so few people to choose from to date and they marry out of desperation.

    I don't even want to go over whether or not or how many times this happened to me or people I love.

    FAST CAR LYRICS
    You got a fast car
    I want a ticket to anywhere
    Maybe we make a deal
    Maybe together we can get somewhere

    Anyplace is better
    Starting from zero got nothing to lose
    Maybe we'll make something
    But me myself I got nothing to prove

    You got a fast car
    And I got a plan to get us out of here
    I been working at a convenience store
    Managed to save just a little bit of money
    We won't have to drive too far
    Just 'cross the border and into the city
    You and I can both get jobs
    And finally see what it means to be living

    You see my old man's got a problem
    He live with the bottle that's the way it is
    He says his body's too old for working
    I say his body's too young to look like his
    My mama went off and left him
    She wanted more from life than he could give
    I said somebody's got to take care of him
    So I quit school and that's what I did

    You got a fast car
    But is it fast enough so we can fly away
    We gotta make a decision
    We leave tonight or live and die this way Chorus: 'cause I remember we were driving driving in your car
    The speed so fast I felt like I was drunk
    City lights lay out before us
    And your arm felt nice wrapped 'round my shoulder
    And I-I had a feeling that I belonged
    And I-I had a feeling I could be someone, be someone, be someone

    You got a fast car
    And we go cruising entertain ourselves
    You still ain't got a job
    And I work in a market as a checkout girl
    I know things will get better
    You'll find work and I'll get promoted
    We'll move out of the shelter
    Buy a big house and live in the suburbs Chorus: 'cause I remember we were driving driving in your car
    The speed so fast I felt like I was drunk
    City lights lay out before us
    And your arm felt nice wrapped 'round my shoulder
    And I-I had a feeling that I belonged
    I-I had a feeling I could be someone, be someone, be someone You got a fast car
    And I got a job that pays all our bills
    You stay out drinking late at the bar
    See more of your friends than you do of your kids
    I'd always hoped for better
    Thought maybe together you and me would find it
    I got no plans I ain't going nowhere
    So take your fast car and keep on driving Chorus: 'cause I remember we were driving driving in your car
    The speed so fast I felt like I was drunk
    City lights lay out before us
    And your arm felt nice wrapped 'round my shoulder
    And I-I had a feeling that I belonged
    And I-I had a feeling I could be someone, be someone, be someone

    You got a fast car
    But is it fast enough so you can fly away
    You gotta make a decision
    You leave tonight or live and die this way
  • nicolaou
    nicolaou

    Good topic FHN

    JW's are like naive teenagers in thinking marriage will be a cure all for their depression and loneliness. There are so few people to choose from to date and they marry out of desperation.

    I also know of JW marriages that have lasted 40 years and more, not because of love and fulfillment but because of the fear that an 'unscriptural' divorce will leave them lonely and castigated by the congregation. I'm sure similar things happen in the rest of society but high-control groups like the WT act as a distillation filter for the depression and loneliness you describe - increasing its potency and harmful effects.

    I often think of the Watchtower as a lobster pot - easy to get inside but murder to escape from.

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    Wifey and I were part and parcel of the 'trap' - now 33 years back. Kinda glad in our case - but many don't find the happy route do they?

    Jeff

  • RAF
    RAF

    I like this song so much ... (but I'm a fan of Tracy)

    And your arm felt nice wrapped 'round my shoulder
    And I-I had a feeling that I belonged
    And I-I had a feeling I could be someone, be someone, be someone

    in this song it's all about that (but we can't count on others to be happy)
    the need to belong to someone or something is just human (spiritually it's not - you only deal with yourself - for what is about yourself even relatively to others) So when it's come to be someone ... it's all about what you think about the need to be someone for/by yourself or to be someone for/by others (in this last case ... we are very close to any trap that we will fall into ourself or make others fall into)

  • mrsjones5
    mrsjones5
    Wifey and I were part and parcel of the 'trap' - now 33 years back. Kinda glad in our case

    And what a cute couple you two are Jeff. Yeah you were one of the lucky ones.

    Josie

  • seek2find
    seek2find

    FHN I almost didn't look at this post, but I'm glad I did. This scenario is all to Familiar with me, because my daughter has ended up in a relationship out of desperation. Only in her case its worse than normal. Her Husband was disfellowshipped on the night after their wedding which was conducted in secret in our home. The move was on to get him disfellowshipped before they could get more involved and out of disperation Her Mother and I allowed them to get Married. So 2 years later, he is still disfellowshipped and they are still strugling, and we are still helping them. All this happened because of the loniness and Isolation that is brought on all who are raised in witness homes. The real sad part is that most of those involved (except me) think this is still Gods Organization. But for 2 years now they have not prayed together, or read the Bible together, or did anything of a spiritual nature together because it forbidden by the Organization. HOW CAN GOD APROVE OF THIS!!! When will the insanity end? seek2find

  • seek2find
    seek2find

    I forgot to mention above that in my opinion the home schooling sought after as a solution to "Bad association" even serves to futher deepen the isolation and lonliness. So when few young people are availabe localy it becomes a situation of "no association" with the world and "no association" anywhere else either. So sad. Why did I have to be born in this mess of a religion? seek2find

  • Paralipomenon
    Paralipomenon

    My brother is weak willed and got pressured into getting engaged because he wasn't strong enough to break it off. Before the wedding he went to the circuit overseer to ask for direction.

    He didn't love his fiancee and was feeling trapped. He asked what to do.

    The Circuit Overseer told him that he made a commitment to get married and he needed to follow through. If he didn't he would face Public Reproof.

    So now he's trapped in a loveless marriage with a lazy wife that doesn't cook, clean or work. He works 60-70 hours to make ends meet then comes home to make supper, do the laundry and clean the house. Within all this he still goes to every meeting he can while she stays at home spending all their money on junk food and infomercial trash.

    Surely Jehovah is blessing his life for heeding that CO's council.

  • cyrus
    cyrus

    Well flying high u do like ur chick songs dont u eh

  • cyrus
    cyrus

    That song is nice but ina sad way.A lot of people get married to escape unhappy homelife but end up in worse mess than they thought possible. Women always seem to be the biggest losers in that situation because all they want is love end up with a baby and a deadbeat waste of space for a hubby.

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