I guess you don't have a wife and a family? I'm thinking you are looking for friends and people your age have wifes and children. Working a job, a wife and a family, there really isnt time to hang out and contemplate the universe. But being single can be a beautiful thing also. You dont have anyone to account to. Your times all your own. You can go anywhere you want do anything you want. The world is at your fingertips. I've been married all my life. I don't know anything about being single. It could have been a nice road to go down. Maybe next life. I work in a 100 man jail. All different ages. The young ones that arent married have girlfriends. You need to find a girlfriend or a boyfriend. What about matchmaker.com? Law enforcement has unusuall hours also. For many its hard to have a schedule that coordinates with others. I work Midnights with friday and saturday off. When I started I had tuesday and wednesday off. That was pretty lonely. Then I got Sunday and Monday. But I'm not a sportsfan. Friday and Saturday are perfect for me. And I love midnights. I have the whole day off to myself I just have to remember to sleep 4 hours somewhere in there and I'm good to go. One thing I have noticed any stress I ever have about the job comes from my fellow officers not the inmates. The liability of making sure everyone does everything by the book is what stresses me out. Where I work when people start doing things that arent by the book thats how people loose their jobs. And an officer has to be careful not to get sucked into it. I prefer to work by myself as often as I can. They don't give us a choice or say. And if they new I liked working by myself they wouldnt let me. But when I'm by myself I dont have to worry about my fellow officers screwing up and taking me down with them.
Law Enforcement Connections, Im puzzled
by Junction-Guy 32 Replies latest jw friends
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Tyrone van leyen
On JWD, people have one thing in common with everyone, and that is shunning and pain caused by beleiveing in things that wern't true. If the Leo boards felt the same feelings within there community they would have a lot more reason to get together. But like what was mentioned earlier some people are just doing there time on the job. The effects of a cult last a lot longer. Hence the addiction to the board and more real sentiment from others. You have entered another system with a hierarchy just like the witnesses, only a bit different. It's not a life and death scenario, like the witnesses paint the world. You are probably seeking the comradship of your witness years in the wrong places. But who am I to say. Depression can push people away from you to.
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Junction-Guy
Thank Jag (may I call you that?) Yes im single now. Im separated from my wife Amanda right now, she posts on this board too. I enjoy being single, and not looking for a relationship right now, I just feel a big void in my life because I dont have any local friends to hang with. When I first started working there I was married and most of the officers I knew were single and lived the single lifestyle, now that Im single, most of the officers I get along with are married, and way too busy with married life to have many friends. Kind of catch 22 situation all around. All along here on this board I have met many new friends, live and in person, I have sent PM's and responded to other LEO types here, and I dont get so much as a response. I admit I havent always reached out to other people because of the fear of being seen as weird due to my JW upbringing, I just kinda figured I would have met at least one good friend, especially someone who understands the trials of growing up JW.
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jaguarbass
Hello Junction guy. Yes you can call me Jag. I would think a great many here understand the trials of growing up a JW. I've been out of the organization since 83. I'm pretty well recovered.At least I had a good day today. But it did take a while. And I hope I dont relapse into anger and negativity.I have a lot of Jw skeletons in my closet. I think you would be better off talking about your trials of growing up as a JW to people here. Worldly people might listen, I doubt they would understand. You say "growing up a jw". I grew up a jw also. We didnt have a choice. But people in the world dont understand that. People in the world grew up with much more freedom to make choices than we ever had as a Jw. They have no one to be mad at but themselves. Most worldly people did what they wanted. We denied ourselves and sacraficed for an organization that was lying and manipulative and our families made us go to those meetings.. That's the cult thing. Most worldly people wont get that.
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Junction-Guy
Exactly Jag, Thats why I figured I would have gotten more response than usual, but it never materialized. Thanks for posting on my thread, it means alot to me right now. My coworkers have been sympathetic to my plight, but they just havent experienced it personally. People on here know first hand what we went through. By the way I have numerous times on here re-hashed my childhood, and there's plenty more left untold. Thanks so much------Dave
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Junction-Guy
Well Im on my way to bed now, it's been a long night of posting for me. I will check back with this thread later.
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LittleToe
Police in Britain are known as Bobbies after Robert Peel (Robert, Bob, Bobbie...).
There are a few folks here from law enforcement. Keep bttt'ing the thread. They'll eventually surface...
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avidbiblereader
JucntionGuy, I was reading all the posts on this thread and even though I am not an officer or served in the military, I see not only in your line of work but also others too that many seem to disengaged from others that they work with or are in a similar line of work. I don't know why the separation from others who share your same career except maybe some are sick and tired of their career choice. I have a brother in law who just won the Sheriff in his county recently and when we get together he never mentions his work unless asked, never mentions his partners or deputies or anything work related. I am a realtor by way of work and my wife, mother in law, both daughters are realtors and because of the nature of our work and how busy we are, my wife and I are more or less dictated that we must talk about it because long after the contract is written the deal still goes on and we have to talk about it. However when on vacation or otherwise it is nice to get a break from it and maybe others in your line of work may feel the same, especially in a high stress job such as yours. I wish you the best in connecting with others who share your career but it is nice to have others here who can understand other events in your life.
abr
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Junction-Guy
Thanks avidbiblereader, yes there are a few others on here, I have sent PM's to them, I have posted on their threads, but they really dont seem to care. I think it's great to find people we have something in common with, besides the JW connection. That's what I've been trying to do, but no such luck. Im looking for freinds to hang out with, and maybe talk on the phone, anything besides just posting on a board. Im sure there are plenty of LEO types on here, but a good deal of them probably live overseas. Its always cool when I can find someone that lives in my region, but it's not cool when they dont even return my PM's. I still feel like an outsider looking in, no matter what I do. I really do appreciate you posting here, and also the others, in addition to JaguarBass.
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avidbiblereader
No problem about posting, I have enjoyed your thoughts and threads that you have started.
I think it's great to find people we have something in common with, besides the JW connection. That's what I've been trying to do, but no such luck. Im looking for freinds to hang out with, and maybe talk on the phone, anything besides just posting on a board.
It is nice to have an outlet besides the WT connection, if I didn't have my wife and all our friends I have thought about what would I do? I think I would find my hobbies and find either groups or clubs to join, a bowling league or something to keep me busy with what I enjoy doing and not just someone to hang out with.
but it's not cool when they dont even return my PM's. I still feel like an outsider looking in, no matter what I do.
I can understand that, I have had about 35 or so PM's so far in a about two months from people from all over asking for some assistance or just thanking me for some scripture or whatever. I have responded to all of them and look at them as my extended family and friends. I think the outsider feeling comes naturally from the witness mentality from all the things that we couldn't do or be involved in at school, work or wherever. You must tell yourself that you do have some qualities and attributes to contribute that will not be looked down on and are needed by others. Keep plugging away and tell yourself everyday, that you can and do make a difference to others in a positive way. I am sure you touch others lives in a positive way that you don't even know.
abr