What Have YOU Learned Since Leaving??? (page 3)

Xena

Never say never.

Just when you think you know it all you find out you don't.

Live in the moment.

You are responsible for yourself.

Finally-Free

What Have YOU Learned Since Leaving???

I'm starting to get scared. I've come back to this thread at least half a dozen times and didn't post because I can't think of one thing I've learned in the 4 years I've been out.

W

Hi Mini! For one, I have come to learn that the more I know now, the more I know that I don't know. Learning is a process that requires one to think. How often, in fact, do we stop to think about what we believe?

Thinking is the means by which we consider, decide, and act upon everything we learn. Thinking is difficult, complex, a process with a course or direction that leads to some result. It requires one to be thoughtful.

I have learned since leaving the society that in times past I never really gave it much thought. I just mindlessly followed whatever the slave directed. Now, I have learned that I don't know much about about anything.

I read much, however, it is other peoples thoughts and ideas that I need to thoughtfully think through. Ultimately, It comes down to this, I alone must come to terms with my own decision making and choices, to accept the consequences of my actions since leaving the society, and to come to terms with dying and death wherever that may lead me.

This discussion forum with the many that have posted here, has and is a great help in my learning process, my continuing development in this area. Thank you all!

Blueblades

minimus

I've learned that people should not be treated like things. They have real feelings and you CAN'T make EVERYONE conform to rules and regulations because an organization (the unknown FDS) says so. It just isn't right.

misanthropic

::Misanthropic, Nice pics you put up!

Thank you very much minimus :)

bernadette

I've learned I have an opinion

that I was very gullible

and can be alone and enjoy it

exwitless

It's funny, my husband and I were just discussing this last night. The only thing we can do is learn from our 14 years of enslavement to the WT. In our mid-30's, we are now starting our lives over again as though we are in our early 20's. We're both furthering our college education, looking forward to getting out of debt that a couple of JW's caused (long story), and maybe someday we'll save up enough money to build ourselves a new home; all of which we were discouraged to do as JWs.

What we've learned is that rather than living a life in control of the organization and "wait on Jehovah" to make our lives better, we are responsible to make our lives better, to make the world better, to help our son have lots of opportunities when he gets older. We have the power to improve on our "lot in life", and we intend to learn from our mistakes as JWs and make a better life from here on out.

Despite the shape we were left in after leaving the borg, financially, emotionally, etc., I now have more hope for the future than I EVER did as a witness.

Billzfan23

I learned to stop using a person's standing in the congregations as a measuring stick for their self worth. I feel free!

lonelysheep

I've learned that people should not be treated like things. They have real feelings and you CAN'T make EVERYONE conform to rules and regulations because an organization (the unknown FDS) says so. It just isn't right.

This reminds me of a recent episode of "Rome" where Timon (who would kill people) said to Atia, "I'm not a f***ing animal!" This was in rebuttal to being told nonchalantly to do more to Servilia during her torture. He was already very physically and mentally exhausted.

Lumptard

I learned that just because something/someone/some idea is different, that it doesn't make it wrong. I learned that I am in control of my life and that I am only as much of a victim as I allow myself to be.

What Have YOU Learned Since Leaving???

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