I Need Help (page 2)

Twitch

don't know what to do or if I believe in god or not now...have had a few beers tonight, got mad at my Gf.

Been there once or twice ;-)

Don't worry 'bout god at the moment, that won't be worked out tonight; all in time :-)

Don't say anything to GF you may regret if you're still mad; all too easy when popped. Sleep it off and work it out later.

Do spend some time here with those who've walked in your shoes.

Do tell GF you need time to work this thing out and that it's not her fault.

Oh and welcome :-)

Hi Corey88, just to reassure you that a lot of people have been through similar to what you have, and not onlysurvived, but thrived! Trust me, you will find friends out in "the world" that are truer friends than the ones who drop you like a hot rock when ordered to.

Just take one day at a time, get strong and look after yourself and your family. Then you'll be able to help your sister. Don't make any hasty decisions when you are stressed.

Don't want to bore you with my experiences right now. But I have never been happier. Hang in there!

rose petal

ex-nj-jw

Hi Core and welcome to the board,

Not sure how you found us but welcome, take a few days, weeks, months or whatever it will take to figure this all out. You will find great people here just take some time to read, don't feel bad about long, unorganized posts, I've found it's better to just get it out when you feel the need to.

There is a life outside of the JW organization, but it's gonna take some time to sort it all out, and unwash your brain!!!

Take care of yourself - because if you don't you cant take care of any one else, especially your son.

Again, welcome

nj

becca1

Hi core88 and welcome. Your sister's problems are all too common among witnesses. Be thankful she survived and she is in a mental facility know. Hopefully she will find the help she needs there. There is no shame in reachig out for help. For you and your girlfiend, you never mentioned that you love her. Maybe that's the issue? Dig inside for your true feelings. Don't enter into marrige for the wrong reasons. Just my "2cents".

mouthy

Welcome to JWD forum, Corey! As the Grnnie on board ( 79.) I want to say you have already received good advice on board. First "sleep it off" when we have been drinking to cover pain it usually brings more pain when we awake.... Another thing that was said." Dont make any rash decissions while you are feeling mixed up". I am so sorry to hear about your sister, but it is not too late for her either. Just LOVE her, apoligise too the G/f if you are sorry, It is so difficult to find out the :"truth" is NOT the "truth" & we have followed what Jesus warned us about a False prophet.... But thank GOd your finding out in time. I am concerrned for your little one.... Remember you are HIS example.... So try to keep your cool, & Dare I add "Dont give up on God, continue in Prayer, asking HIS forgiveness no one elses, He said "COME AS YOU ARE" warts & all. We have ALL come out of confusion Life isnt for wimps....You sound like YOU ARE NOT A WIMP!!! So there IS life after the Watchtower, I promise you it will be MUCH better in awhile after you handle all these problems - (asking the HOLY SPIRIT) for guidence.... Now many on here dont believe in GOD now.... But I can certainly understand that after the WT finished with them...But I hope that wont include you.... As you can see by my long answer I am not only mouthy, I am finger hot....(((((((((((HUGS))))))

Crumpet

Welcome to the board Corey - I did the same as your sister when I was just 16. I was df-ed for it. You have lots and lots to deal with now, but after a few beers is not the time.

I'd tell your girlfriend you are sorry and go get some sleep and then address everything fresh in the morning - lots of good advice here already especially from Twitch!

Good Girl or Bad Girl?

Welcome, Corey!! What you are going through is definitey normal. I can relate to your feelings of helplessness. Posting here is a good step. You won't always feel as anxious as you do now.

Taking things one day at a time, even one moment at a time will help too. Everything is going to be alright! We are glad you are here.

GoodGirl/BadGirl

Atpeaceatlast

Hi, Core88, I left Indiana in 1988 after my time with JWs, so what you're going through brings back a lot of memories for me. Back then, I was very alone and didn't have the Internet to find out the truth about the Watchtower. In this forum, you will find a lot of support and advice from those who've been there. Take care and keep in touch!

LeslieV

Hi Corey and welcome to the board. Your feelings are normal...I agree with the posters that told you if you don't know what to do, do nothing at all. Just because you are a father doesn't mean you have to be a husband, if you are not ready. Your child needs a father first.

You have to get the JW tape from playing in your head. Remember it took years of brainwashing, it takes time to wash your brain clean of its influence. Come here and vent, vent, vent. You need to get the gunk out of the pit of your stomach, and the junk in your throat that makes you feel like you can't swallow. The gunk and junk is the control this cult has over its members. Keep coming back Corey. We are here for you.

Leslie

greendawn

Welcome, have you as yet worked through the false JW ideas that the end is near, that they are the only way to salvation and that everyone else is babylon? These ideas are totally or partly false.

I Need Help

Share this