by Sparkplug 18 Replies latest jw friends
(((Sparky)))
I had no idea you were going through all this. I'm so sorry - you're smart and a tough cookie though - that I do know...rest on your friends that you can trust for support when you need them. They will help you through this. Putting our faith in people and then having it not pan out seems to be an unfortunate part of life. I hope whoever is giving you trouble right now is not doing so malciously - but out of ignorance -- and if not...&*%$ 'em!
but out of ignorance
Hey jojo!! I am sure it is this...none other...still hurt enough for me to piss and moan a bit. Cry in a guinness and soon I will toot off to bed. Thanks hon. I just needed to vent.
Well, I couldn't find Backstabbers by TLC, but I did find this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZujhoE150tg) which is from the same album (Crazy, Sexy, Cool). I thought it might cheer you up.
Oh now...tell me tha is not a knockin' da' boots song... So ....guess I am gonna go sleep now....thanks for cheering me up Abandoned...
~just kidding~
but I am sure gonna bring it back to a sleep peaceful song...
I share back to you~
NOW THATS funny!!! But not so much if I am PC. I will have to tell you all about it sometime.
I think what it is, is that you have a keen sense of irony--and many ironic situations do contain some [albeit, dark] humor. Next time someone gives you a judgmental reaction for employing ironic humor among your other coping tools--ask them if they've ever laughed at a dark comedy...and point out, "Where do you think the plot lines for those things come from? Everyday stuff we deal with!!"
Humor is an effective coping tool. Use it. Acknowledge the guilt--but acknowledge guilt as an emotion that comes in tandem with the humor, in this situation...not as something that 'needs' to override it.
Oh now...tell me tha is not a knockin' da' boots song... So ....guess I am gonna go sleep now....thanks for cheering me up Abandoned...
~just kidding~
ROFL! I love that album and I love the raw energy they exuded throughout and I didn't really thing about the song was actually talking about until I had already posted.
Sparkplug,
It is like looking after a kid, but in reverse. They become progressively less of who / what you knew them as until they are gone.
I don't know how your health system works, but if is anything like ours, please make sure that the psych evaluation gets done FAST. Here, the clock doesn't start on a bed placement until you get past that hurdle - and please don't let anyone try to send you on a guilt trip for trying to do the best for your family. The worst part of this is the effect that the 36 hour day (not a mistype) needed to care for someone like this has on you as the carer - especially when you think that you are coping. Please listen to those around you: sometimes a reality check from someone not too close is in order.
Yes, there are things that you laugh at - and then feel bad about. Don't worry, others have been there as well, and it's not any failing on your part. I can still remember my dad (with dementia) climbing a tree to trim it and not being able to get down again. I see my wife's mother being a mirror of her mischievious 4 yo granddaugher in her behaviour. It's all part of the journey.
I have been thinking of you and the frustrations / concerns / dissappointments that you are having and really hope that there is a positive turn around for you real soon.
h9k
I don't know how your health system works, but if is anything like ours, please make sure that the psych evaluation gets done FAST.
Check...Coming Thursday
I can still remember my dad (with dementia) climbing a tree to trim it and not being able to get down again. I see my wife's mother being a mirror of her mischievious 4 yo granddaugher in her behaviour. It's all part of the journey.
I wonder if it is a thing that lets us see them as a bit more humand and possibly since kids are so innocent...makes it easier for us on their dparture journey and them because an adult mind knowing it is going out of this life cant be that easy to handle...Just a thought.
really hope that there is a positive turn around for you real soon.
There is always good with the bad and I have my share as fast as the bad is piling... The good is coming
It's ok to laugh. My mother took care of her mother (actually her grandmother) and her mother's daughter Sweet (my mother's real mother - has had mental problems for years) for a few years before she had to place both of them. Grandma had Alzhemier's but Sweet was so used to doing whatever Grandma told her that she would do whatever Grandma said. One day my mother brought home some KFC and left it in the kitchen then for some reason had to pop back out and left Grandma and Sweet in the house alone. Grandma get a pot of water and tells Sweet to put the chicken in the pot. By the time Mom got home there was the fried chicken just a boiling away in the pot. When Mom called and told me what happened we couldn't help but laugh, it was so funny and crazy at the same time.
