when youve left the witnesses you ever think? (page 3)

Karen-Jane

to be honest i soon became gald that they wanted me for sex, not to drag me round doors in the rain and to study.

As much as holding hands and reading together is nice...

Cordelia, I think not getting a Valentine was a good reason to feel suspect he was not the one.

A woman needs to look for incidents of thoughtfulness and chivalry in her lover as indicators that he is the one who will love her and take care of all her needs, including her heart.

A smart man will know he needs to be both Casanova and her Knight in Shining Armour.

Plenty of men are that smart.

Men are wonderful Cordelia. You just need to set your standards higher.

Now if a young man is negligent and truly lacking awareness or experience, you can gently inform him of your needs for him to be more thoughtful in certain areas. Depending on his response and performance afterwards will you consider him a serious suitor.

AuldSoul

I never thought all the guys wanted me for sex ... my wife maybe, but not me ...

megsmomma

I am late in answering....sorry. It took me 7 years after my divorce....and leaving the religion to find my husband. But, I think the key is more about how many wrong ones I dated to get to the right one. I had 3 fairly serious relationships that taught me more of what I didn't want, than what I did. At first I thought I could put up with just about anything. Boy was I wrong!

I read that it takes about an average of 5 serious relationships for most wemon to experience before getting the right one. That seems pretty true from what I have seen. It is so different than what we grew up thinking....you marry the first guuy you date.

Gill

Absolutely everything revolves around sex. Everything is driving you to reproduce.....nature is making you want children even if you do not know it by making you interesting in men.

Men are much the same. You have to look for the ones that also want to look after you, you to look after them, and to stay together.

If its worth having its worth looking for and being patient for. It doesn't matter if he's JW, Mormons, or Atheist, HE is much like SHE....and you both want the same thing. Whether its with or without strings attached is what you need to find out BEFORE YOU personally make any committment.

Cordelia

good piont anewme if a guy doesnt realise that then maybe he not worth it!!!!

avidbiblereader

Can't be having hundreds of thousands of marriages because the women think the men are A-Holes.

abr

Cordelia

you are right i dont know what wrong with me ijust saw him in a nightclub he told me i looked gorgeous etc etc but my piont is.......why then if he still loves me (so he says ) is he willing to give up that easy.

i dont want him anyway i know he not the right one, so why does it still hurt?

Hortensia

so many things to say about this issue - of course by now anyone reading my posts knows how wordy I am. when I left the org. I found out that anyone who wants to get laid can, and actually I had some fun that way. However, in the long run I guess we all want more, and anyway the promiscuous route is pretty dangerous. I met a really nice man through my business and we got married. We've been married 13 years now, have a nice relationship. it was rocky for a while, because of the very thing you said in your post: "now just want to be looked after and dont think theres anyone out there." My husband and I both were wanting to be rescued when we got married, had to work out some issues around expectations, but eventually came to see that on the one hand, we each need to take care of ourselves, and then on the other hand, we can take care of each other. I don't think men are attracted to needy women - so maybe get out there and get involved in work, education, hobbies, sports - make yourself happy and have an interesting life, and you'll definitely find someone worthwhile.

preachy, ain't I?

when youve left the witnesses you ever think?

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