Well, you see how fast they turn their back on their disfellowshiped bretheran.
Do YOU Think People Actually "Love" You? Are They Intimate Friends?
by minimus 28 Replies latest jw friends
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anewme
interesting question. Love was such a "given" before in my naive cult life. But when parents are gone and friends have deserted you, love can be hard to find.
I would have to say at this time in my life I think my new husband loves me, yeah,
and definitely my dog. I would name all my other pets, but who would believe me?
One doesnt need a lot of love. But one does need some. -
minimus
Never question the dog. A dog will always be loyal and love you unconditionally.
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proplog2
Love is a feeling. Feelings come and go. Love (2:32 PM) may not be there at (2:33 PM). And it may be for a good reason. Maybe you reveal your own infidelity at 2:32 and your mate feels you crossed the line. You can't get inside another person. You can't even get inside yourself. And there are different kinds of love.
This is an example of the kind of question Terry can help us with.
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anewme
I made what I thought was a new friend at work.
But since then Ive learned otherwise.
I call her my stray cat. She shows up or calls and we discuss her problems. I give her some milk, I mean a hearing ear, and she stays as long as she is doing the talking. When I want to talk about something or share my views (like trying to pet a stray) she gets miffed over something small and doesnt call again until she has some other mouse to show off or needs some milk. There is little real friendship or communication going on. She is into herself only. I once wanted to talk about the world and the news and she said "What has that got to do with me and my son?"
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Finally-Free
I once wanted to talk about the world and the news and she said "What has that got to do with me and my son?"
Absolutely nothing! That's what makes it so interesting!
People like that make my head hurt.
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Merry Magdalene
I am certain of the warm, embracing love of 4 people--my daughtermy longtime girlfriend (although,oddly enough we are sorta foul-weather friends, there for each other in bad times more than in good times)my tatlimand my newest myspace girlfriend (we just "clicked" instantly)
Other people have claimed to love me but I didn't feel it. Maybe that's just me, I don't know, or maybe it's because their love included shunningemotional blackmail or other unhealthy demands.
~Merry
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anewme
Hey guess what? The Stray Cat just called! She told me she got in a car accident on Sunday and how she called around to junk yards and no one had her 1986 Pontiac parts so she went online and found a guy in Virginia who had them all and ordered them and they are coming next week.
I just said "Wow! What a smart thing to do! You did that all by yourself to fix you car? I am sometimes amazed how smart you are!"
She went silent for a moment and said "You really think so? My mom is always telling me how stupid I am"
It occured to me what an agonizing existence this woman must lead if she has a mother who is constantly berating her! It may explain her personality quite a bit and why I have trouble with her.
A person like her would be very sensitive to critisicm and fearful when others are talking that they are criticizing her views when they are merely sharing their thoughts.
She has some really bad communication habits, like cutting me off when I am talking and defending herself quite a bit or stubbornly taking an opposite view on everything. And she takes NO ADVICE OR CRITICISM.
Ive learned to be gentle with her. Mostly I am a hearing ear. (sigh)
I just thank God I have JWD because I have few friends anymore. I love to talk about the BIG ISSUES and about ABSTRACT THINGS. Its hard to find others who like to also.
And REAL HARD to find people who want to talk about the JWs like we do here!! LOL!
(Just thought I'd share the insight I got today about my cat friend)
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blondie
Even when I was a "good" JW I knew that very few in the congregation would "die" for me; they wouldn't even "live" a little for me, so I knew dying was out of the question.
The ones that really helped the older JWs, the sick and the depressed, I knew they would help me and they did. They were the ones that were looked down by the majority, especially the elders. I heard one say that these people did this because they weren't "qualified" to do anything else.
I learned that in the world in general you are fortunate if you have one or two or even three friends like that.
Blondie