Disfellowshipped? does your family still speak to you?

DamienL

I have been disfellowshipped for 7 years and my grandfather refuses to eat with me. There teachings are to love one another but this is not the case. Does anyone else have this problem.?

Hi Damien and welcome, you will find many on this board inc me are in the same situation, I am newly D\F, but my parents stopped talking to me a year before the big D\F even happend. My father came to my house the other day to build a swing set he had brought my son, heh didnt even want to enter via the front door as he would see me but he had no choice , he walked straight past me without even looking at me and went out the backyard.

It was hurtful, I so know what your saying bout the whole love thing.

Enjoy the board you will be helped heaps

Es

SPAZnik

Withdrawal of affection is one way to attempt to dominate people. Get that? It's about domination, not love.

DamienL

the thing that bothers me is that he is quite willing to give me a lift in the car whenever i want and speaks to me, but then he switches and goes on about how evil Manassa and how evil he is

Gill

ES! I'm sorry you tolerate such ludicrous behaviour from your father!

DamienL - As SPAZnik says, it's just a means to control you. You don't want to be controlled by a bunch of religious freaks do you? (Governments no included. There doesn't seem to be too much we can do about that at the moment.) But, you don't need to tolerate such bad behaviour. You don't have to put up with their control freak ways and we don't need to play the game. Just tell him to shut the hell up! Either get a taxi or learn to drive. Cut the buggers out of your life. It works wonders!

Gill

Oh! And welcome, Damien!!!!

Es

thanks Gil, its not really that I tolerate it as he is no longer welcome in my home, I guess i didnt expect them to be that harsh really, I dont know what i expected but it wasnt that. Which was stupid of me as he is such a hardcore elder.

LeslieV

First welcome Damien. Many of us are in the same position that you are in. I was DA'd about 8 years ago. I have not spoken to any of my family since. My grandparents both passed away a few years ago, I only heard about it by reading it in the paper.

It is all about control and power, it has nothing whatsoever to do with love. JW's say they show love, but it is just lip service. They love only on their terms. It certainly is not the example set by Christ, but think back how often did they ever teach us about Christ's love? It is always about Jehovah's anger, jealousy, etc. That is why they stress the behavior of God in the Hebrew scriptures. Keep coming back.

Leslie

DamienL

Thanks for all your posts. There must be a way to put this cult to a stop.

Mrs Smith

Welcome. This is a great place to be loved and wanted.

Disfellowshipped? does your family still speak to you?

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