Disfellowshipped? does your family still speak to you? (page 2)

jaguarbass

I'm not disfellowshipped at all and your grandfather wont eat with me either.

But in all serious, Welcome to the board Damien. That sucks they took your grandfather away from you. Some people say blood is thicker than water. I guess that doesnt apply to the jw's.

You start out with 4 grand parrents and 8 great grand parents. Sometimes they all dont work. When I was a young men 2 of my grand parents were alcoholics. They werent witlesses but they really werent worth talking to. They say you can choose your friends but you cant choose your realitives. It's your grand fathers loss not being able to talk to you.

dawg

To the lady who's father passed you by without talking to you... How long will you suffer this mental abuse?

SPAZnik

Do you not feel you have a right to say something to stop the manassa diatribes?

You don't have to be mean about it or overly defensive. Just a simple, "please don't do that anymore" might be a good start. Or, a thought provoking statement like, "I'm not sure if you realize how you sound when you say things like that grandpa." You could even outright ask, "are you attempting to compare me to manassa?" or "are you taking it upon yourself to judge me as evil? cause that's how it's sounding grandpa." Dealing with it honestly and directly will likely have positive effect and earn you respect.

You can learn to manage your relationships with your loved ones, in spite of an organization with a certain penchant for breaking up families.

mrchuffster

I made a decision some time ago that I would no longer participate in my own abuse.

Give it a try.

Mr C

ex-nj-jw

Welcome to the board Damien

nj

DamienL

Another thing my grandad is an elder in the "congregation. Yet he still drinks a litre of vodka a day and still drives his car. Does anyone know how i would report this to their so called "governing body?"

unique1

Welcome!!!!

I am disassociated and my parents won't speak to me, accept a phone call from me but will reply hurtfully to my emails inquiring about their health.

Gill

Damien - I don't think it's the Goobering Slobbers you need to report your Grandpa to, but the Police......preferably before he wipes out a load of innocent people quietly walking along on the pavement!!

You may be doing him a favour!!

I knew a JW lady whose Elder husband was an alcoholic! One night he'd drunk so much he was out of his head and took his car keys to go out. She grabbed the keys off him. He couldn't get the keys back and called 999 to get the police to come and get his car keys off his wife. The police came round and warned him to stay away from his wife and the keys and that if he should step one foot near his car they'd arrest him.

Sadly, his alcoholism killed him in the end. But his wife did know the difference between right and wrong and stood up to him!

jambon1

Damien

Welcome.

The more I read accounts like these, the more I get angry. I am not d/f'd but I find the practise very cruel, heartless and even sinister. For blood tied relatives to treat each other like this is something I simply do not understand. I never will.

At this stage, I am just glad that I escaped this religion, but it dominates much of my thoughts for various reasons. The whole thing is just wrong on so many levels.

My advice is to try to be a great person out of the truth and NEVER lower yourself or become vengeful. The worst slap in the face to JW`s is for someone to leave the truth and lead a happy and productive life. It just blows their mind.

Best,

J

BFD

Welcome, Damian.

I am DF'd as well as one of my brothers and mom has shuned us since around 1997. She also shuns my sister who was never Df'd, she just DA'd. The woman has not even met all of her grandchildren. Very sad. I stopped trying to get through to her a long time ago but every once in a while I get the urge to contact her. It sucks but really there is nothing I can do to change the situation short of returning to the cult in good standing. Ain't gonna happen.

Good luck to you. And I agree, your grandpa needs to be reported to the police if he is driving drunk. He is a danger to himself as well as innocent by standers.

BFD

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