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free2think

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Clam

Crumpet the whole shunning crap really gets to me. I feel a mixture of sadness and anger. People are deprived of family love and association for the sake of a big fat pile of bullshit. Ughh.

Shall I start something fluffy to offset the down side?

Yeah go then, LOL.

vitty

Maybe you should not have contact with at all, see how that goes

You maybe feeding them with a drip , drip drip of information about yourself. If they never hear from you from one month to the next, they may well contact you.

I had a family member who I didnt speak to for a couple of years, I felt bad but thought I was being faithful. It got to were I asked myself what was the point in NOT speaking to him, I missed him and knew he wouldnt come back. So I phoned him and apologized for shunning him. That was a few years before I left the truth. I told my other JW family members that I was now in contact with him and they just shugged and never said anything more.

Im so glad I started talking to him before we left the borg.

They will be hurting.....................let them hurt and worry about you a bit more................they may turn around

Crumpet

You maybe feeding them with a drip , drip drip of information about yourself. If they never hear from you from one month to the next, they may well contact you.

Vitty - whole years go by and I manage to resist the drunk dialling so its not as though they hear from me at all - the only thing I have been consistent about is the anniversary card each year which I dont normally provide with news. I decided I would this time. i don't want them thinking that my life is going from one pile of crap to another anymore.

We have never had a chat on the phone except when I was notified about 5 years ago of my grandmother's death and then in December I managed to persuade my mother not to hang up whilst I made my peace with the situation, but that was pretty much a one way conversation. They literally would always put the phone down as soon as they recognised my voice. That conversation with my mum in December was the first time we had heard each others voices in nearly 10 years. And I only got through because I quickly stated that the call was not a social one - but to advise them I was in my hometown that weekend and didnt want them bumping into me and being shocked by it.

Mrs Smith

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wanderlustguy

I think reaching out to them only hurts you. They have a support group that is constantly telling them how f*cking great they are for being strong and not talking to you. Can you blame them for it and be angry...I don't know, I can't at my family. They are in something they don't understand. If you keep trying to reach through it to them, it will continue to hurt you. As long as you stop your life even for a moment because of the organization, it continues to take more from you. You already lost your family...maybe they can be found again one day, but there comes a point where a rational person calls off the search out of self preservation. And as arrogant as it may sound, perhaps you too can say.

They simply are not as strong as I am.

See you soon.

WLG

juni

Timbo said:

No anguish, no recriminations, no attacks. Just a calm and friendly note.

My thoughts also Nina. Beautiful letter. You are at peace with yourself. You can't get any better than that hon.

Have fun at Ross and Diane's wedding and the HUGE apostacrawfest this May. You will be a delight to have at the party!!

(((Nina)))

Love, Juni

WingCommander

Awwwl Crumpet! It really is all their loss hun! I'm glad that you are enjoying your travels abroad.

I plan to visit the following places in the next several years:

Hawaii, Australia/New Zealand, Iceland, Ireland/Scottland, Switzerland.

Oh hey, your name is Nina? Cool.

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- Wing Commander

Gill

Crumpet - The shunning 'thingy' is such a heartless policy. It's really strange that my family still speak to us but my husband's take such a hard line stance. Husband's brother is getting a divorce, his father had a major stroke and now is in hospital with heart failiure and you know what, his family have said absolutely nothing to us. His mother ran into him in the street last week, made eye contact, looked away and carried on walking. Can't you tell it's the true religion?!

unique1

What a sweet note. I hope they read it and realize what they lost. You seem like a really good daughter.

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