It's more extreme in some congos than others I believe, but I'm curious if you, as a current JW, will allow the Elders to "counsel" your wife about the spirtual danger you create for her.
This just came up in another congo that I have a spy in. The fading brother wishes he had not let them meet with his wife or had insisted on being there. I BELIEVE that the Elders have to honor such a request under the "headship" doctines of the
Elders meeting with wifes without permission....? That's in the playbook, but ignored. My wife used to go and bitch about my fade and I told the elders NOT to meet with her and discuss the "spiritual" aspects of my household. They told me they would talk with whomever, whenever.
Later the whole congregation aided and assisted in her abandoning home and child for "spiritual endangerment".
She volunteered full custody and has spent less than 30 hours with our child in 5 years...and is still in "good standing" with her hall.
Holy spirit my ass!
~Hill
Elders usually do whatever they want to...damn the rules.
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