It's possible that if you never heard from the elders in your current hall at all, you'd be upset that they obviously don't care about you and your welfare. Remember that they're just trying to 'shepherd'. It sounds like they're a lot more committed to that than most other elders though, so you might just have a handful of loons.
As somebody who handled their parents terribly, and the same age, I recommend that you be the person telling your parents the stuff that matters to them. It upset mine a lot that I didn't tell them myself, I was afraid to and sent some vague messages through my aunts who I knew would pass on any info they got their hands on. Actually I don't care that it's a big deal to my parents, they could just, you know, grow up and deal with it, but I should have told them myself. The strangest things break families up. They're far more upset that I didn't tell them myself that I'm not going to meetings and getting reinstated, than the fact that I'm not. My parents are also having a very hard time letting go of parenthood now that we've all grown up and have isolated all of their children in one way or another - I'm just the worst-case scenario. I got disfellowshipped, so clearly it's all my fault...