Must agree with you Little Toe. Crumpet you cannot call Christians "metally incapacited" and call yourself open minded at the same time what is fantasy to you is very real to others.
I wish you all the best as you recover from your broken heart.
Imaginary Friends can help you get over divorce Apparently
by Crumpet 29 Replies latest jw experiences
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Xena
So you are annoyed and perplexed when someone offers you comfort and advise that doesn't accord with your personal belief system? After asking people for advise on something....okkk
Then you go on to basically call people who perfer monogomy the equivilent of stupid birds.
IMO you don't come across as free thinking and openminded you come across as someone who wants so bad to appear openminded and free thinking that you have to insult anyone who doesn't agree with your concept of that. What's up with that?
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juni
Easy....easy.... Xena girl.........
Tolerant and respectful is what I say people should be of others.
Juni "Y" <peace sign
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Mrs Smith
Yes Juni, but it goes both ways!
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Crumpet
Whoa! Wait a minute - I didn't say I was open minded! I don';t profess to be - I think only yesterday I posted saying that I was disturbed at my own level of arrogance in swapping one set of beliefs for another. I am the first to recognise that as a fault and that I am not open minded - yet!
I don't think monogamy is wrong nor the albatross a stupid bird! If you read my reply to AK Jeff you'll see quite the contrary - my lack of self faith in being able to keep such a commitment and my lack of ability to trust others are the objects to me achieving that for myself. I envy that. I'd love to have the kind of relationship my parents I have, but I won't because I am basically far to fearful.
Is it truly possible to be a religiophobe with negative exposure to only one religion?
I have had negative exposure to JWs but I did spend a number of years visiting other churches and mixing with other religions, before I decided none of them had answers to suit me.
I did say "Bring It" though and you have!
But please take into consideration that I didn't ask for advice - I asked for people's experiences of how long it took to stop being in love with someone. I can't help feeling very offended when I feel that request for shared experience has been abused for some unsolicited preaching about God which has f-all to do with my situation.
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Satans little helper
Crumpet, I think you need to take a step back and be single right now. You seem to be very emotionally dissociative and dare I say it a little narrow minded.
I am married and believe me it is no imposition to have to spend the rest of my life only making love to only one person, the trick is finding that one person that rocks your world to the core every time they walk into the room.
It's not only about sex though, being with one person that knows you as well as you know yourself is the most comforting thing I can think of. My last long term relationship was based on a very healthy sex life but was destructively competitive, we were always trying to better the other person in everything we did and especially in our careers. In my marriage we actually work as a team and although I function perfectly well individually and can look after myself, my life is happier and easier for having a partner who is my partner in all senses of the word.
Your pop at Christians whilst understandable is a little insulting; remember that you were one once and whilst our science questions the existence of a supreme being, it is far from being conclusive. Religion is a man made construct which fulfils a number of psychological needs, "god" as an entity can exist independent of the framework that people have built around the concept. Rubbishing peoples' faith or beliefs because they do not fit your own world view is not only rude, but incredibly like the pot calling the kettle black.
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LittleToe
I have had negative exposure to JWs but I did spend a number of years visiting other churches and mixing with other religions, before I decided none of them had answers to suit me.
There's a gulf of a difference between deciding that something is not the source of the answers that you seek, and actually developing a phobia about it.
I can't help feeling very offended when I feel that request for shared experience has been abused for some unsolicited preaching about God which has f-all to do with my situation.
Then you take offense too easily. People will offer advice and consolation out of the frameworks with which they work within. I suspect a JamesThomas-style reply of "still your mind and observe what it is that is feeling all these negative emotions about you ex" is just as likely to be of little use to you. Yet many here have a great deal of respect for James, and would be surprised to see someone rail against him for profering such an opinion.
Opinions are like a$$holes - we all have one. Sometimes we just need to give a nod of thanks that someone cared enough to respond, and move on and do what we find useful anyhow.
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Crumpet
Did JT actually say that to me? If he did then I think that is an excellent thought - its a good place to start, although not totally suited to my circumstances.
I do take offense very easily. And I do have a phobia you could say about religion. It scares the death out of me. It has scorched so many aspects of my life that to me its like posion - so I react as if I have been confronted with anthrax when it is offered as any kind of solution to my problems when I perceive it as the main cause of everything that has gone wrong in my life. But I can take criticism and agree that this is an over reaction.
It made me feel better in the short term. In the long term the lesson I have learnt is that having a quick scathing rant publically can simply make me feel worse - especially when I inadvertently offend people I love and respect, when I spit out my dummy.
Some of the offense I caused today was intentional and retaliatory, but not I should say deserved. And a little of it particularly about marriage was not even slightly intentional.
I think its very good that you take the time to chasten me and speak honestly. I do appreciate it.
Dummy back in where it belongs.
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Crumpet
You seem to be very emotionally dissociative and dare I say it a little narrow minded.
How very dare you satans little helper!
No seriously I would agree with you. They are how I survive. For now.
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R.Crusoe
Far fro being regressive and judgemental of others, Crumpet is exploring her own emotional and psycholgical truth with a zeal for life that ticks with the beat of her own heart and not some set of rulings imposed by the hard to grasp regulation of others, be they relgiously or psychologically derived!
I think you're a fantastic individual Crumpet and so in the moment of your own existence. Go with your heart angel!