I understand that some people left the jw faith and some people on here may never have been jws or believed in it, so I understand why you post and give info back and forth, but I have trouble understanding some of the disfellowshipped ones on here.
I'm disfellowshipped, maybe I can help.
To be disfellowshipped most of the time it is for something that even a non jw would not think is right,
Do you know of a survey or a scientific study to support this assessment? A lot of "non JW" people are not as judgmental as this assessment would make them seem.
but I feel that some come on here for an outlet or try to find some relief of being disfellowshipped, whereas if you just left the congregation and was not disfellowshipped you might not even care to come on here.
This is patently untrue. We have many members on here who are fading away from JW's (trying to "just leave"), and many who did fade away without getting an official sanction from the local congregation. People who "just leave" have some very interesting reasons for doing so, and they tell those reasons on boards like this.
My point is most people dont just wake up the next day after being disfellowshipped and automatically stop believing in the jw faith, but then they come on here and try to make it ok, and everyone makes it ok for them which is alright. You can do what you want, but I think alot of disfellowshipped ones come on here to grant themselves some kind of immunity.
True, it takes a while to unlearn the traits, such as fear, prejudice and narrow-mindedness, that composed our mindset that we had while we were JW's. It's a process of learning to trust yourself and to not be so judgmental of strangers. If the "offense" for which one was disfellowshipped involved no crime or harm to another person, as is often the case, then why should any person try to continue to justify the disfellowshipping as enforced by the Watchtower Society and Jehovah's Witnesses? Since my disfellowshipping several years ago, I have talked to several non-JW's of many different beliefs about the effects it had on my relationship with past friends and family. I have yet to find one person who agrees with the Watchtower policy of shunning its ex-members.
To be disfellowshipped you probably did something that there is not a good excuse for what you did. So then you feel guilty and you come on here looking for answers then everyone gives you all these logical reasons you are looking for.
Not all disfellowshippings fit into this broad picture. I have been on this board for 6 years now, and I have seen a LOT more people upset with the Watchtower policy of enforced shunning than I have seen people feeling guilty. Can you support this 'then you feel guilty' assertion? I think that is an astonishing piece of mind-reading. And yes, people here DO provide logical reasons why the Watchtower teachings and practices are illogical.
then you start blasting the jw faith with all the hatred you got built up in you
I agree there's a lot of blasting the JW faith here. The religion is so illogical, has had so many twists and turns, and now is basically there to protect itself by promoting fear and hatred of anything that doesn't agree with it. Have you ever considered carefully how HATEFUL the Watchtower literature is to outside institutions and to its former members? This religion has convinced my parents to trust elders whom they don't even know instead of me, their own son. And then my parents are told in the Watchtower literature that ex-members in the family are to be avoided at all costs, out of loyalty to the organization. That is a hateful and misguided policy. If people's faith is strong and if the beliefs were truth, it would hold up even if a member of that faith maintained a family relationship with a non-member.
Most of you dont know what is said on here, what scriptures or info is on here,
How long did it take you to reach this conclusion? You've only been on here a few days, and you really don't know many people here. I would say that many of us know the scriptures quite well. I was a ministerial servant, an auxiliary pioneer, and gave public talks. As a JW, I was able to use scriptures to explain what I believed at the time. A lot of posters on here, DF'd or not, really are quite knowledgeable.
your posts turn into I am glad I am out, I always knew that it was a false religion, and so forth. This is total BS in my opinion,
Well, some people who were raised a JW were very skeptical about it from a young age. (They had strong BS detectors.) For them, they can make this statement. For most of us, it took a while to discover that it was a false religion. However, most people do not claim "I always knew it was a false religion". It is true that they had doubts, I did -- even when I was a loyal adult JW. From what I see, most JW's have a few private doubts, but not enough to leave. Only after getting DF'd and doing research, my inner doubts about certain doctrines and practices became confirmed.
IN CONCLUSION, you have painted many DF'd posters here with a broad brush. Many of us felt we were doing the right thing by trying to be loyal JW's. Then some came into a position that put them into the WT judicial process, which is inconsistent, often shows favoritism, often breaks up families, and is clearly in place to shield the organization itself rather than out of a concern for any people involved in the process.
Coming here to express our disappointment, and sometimes anger, with this process is part of the healing. I'm long over that anger, but I will always denounce the control tactics enforced by the JW leadership.
